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Friday, January 10, 2020

Proverbs 5:15-20

Proverbs 5:15-20 (NIV)  15 Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,
your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers.
18 May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
20 Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?
Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?

Proverbs 5:15-20 (NLT)  15 Drink water from your own well—
share your love only with your wife.
16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
17 You should reserve it for yourselves.
Never share it with strangers.
18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?

"The decision to entice someone else into immorality is not a decision made by a stable person who desires the best for either self or the one enticed." - Enduring Word Commentary

As we've been discussing in earlier posts about Proverbs 5, a woman (or man) who tries to seduce you is someone to avoid. They don't have your best interests at heart. Heck, they don't even have their own best interests at heart! They are unstable in their ways. They are living just for the moment without thought of the future. This is not just silly but dangerous. You are hurting yourself and others.

In the verses today, we learn what marriage is for. God has given us sexual desires and the desire to procreate. It's hardwired into us. I mean, think about it... God has given us sexual organs, hormones, chemical balances and there is only one reason for it! Procreation! He has made our fleshly machines to work in such a beautiful and intricate way so as to procreate.

Before the fall into sin, God had made Adam and Eve perfectly. They had perfect, immortal bodies. God breathed His life into them. Then He established a marriage relationship between them and told them to multiply, fill the earth, and rule over the earth.

Genesis 1:26-28 (NLT)  26 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, after Our likeness, to rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, and over all the earth itself and every creature that crawls upon it.”
27 So God created man in His own image;
in the image of God He created him;
male and female He created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and every creature that crawls upon the earth.”

This was BEFORE the Fall and sin entered the world. Adam and Eve were created in God's image. They were formed and designed by God. He breathed His life into them. Stop for a moment.

Everything else that God created (stars, sun, moon, earth, seas, land, animals, birds, fish), He created with a word. But when it came time to make a human being...

God used His Hands to form Adam from the dirt of the ground and He leaned over Adam and breathed His Life into Adam. Then He took a rib from Adam and used His Hands to make a woman and He leaned over her and breathed His Life into Eve. This is why Christians see human life as being sacred. We have God's image, His design, His breath in us. It is why only God should be in charge of life and death. We are His creation and we have His breath! Every human being is sacred because we are His creation.

So from the time we are babies, born into this world, our bodies begin the slow climb to sexual peak. When we are of an age to be able to have children, our bodies work in such a way as to be fruitful and multiply. Then we reach an age where our bodies begin the slow decline away from sexual peak. During sexual peak, we normally have all we need to procreate, to have babies and care for our young. For instance, it is natural for everyone in a restaurant to keep an eye on a small child or infant in order to protect it. We may get irritated when the baby cries. But normal people keep eyes in the back of their head to watch out for the child in the room. We instinctively realize a baby is vulnerable and must be taken care of because babies are the hope of our future. Most of us would risk our lives, even give up our lives, for a child. God made us that way for a purpose so that we can procreate and multiply and fill the earth.

God doesn't often give children to people who are too young or too old to take care of the babies. That's why a 5 yr old can't have children and a 50 yr old can't have children (normally speaking). We need the ability to make mature decisions, youth, strength and stamina to protect our young so God made our sexual peak to be in our late teens until our late 30's. Too early and we don't have the mental capacity to think things all the way through and that can be dangerous to our young. For instance, a 10 year old might not realize a baby crawling out the front door is dangerous because they never thought the baby would make it to the street and get run over or the baby gets snatched by a stranger. Too late and we don't have the strength and stamina to keep up with our young.

Normally and naturally, God gives children at our sexual peak for good reasons. The end result is for procreation and to protect our young so they can fill the earth and multiply themselves. Now, of course, sin came into the world and we now live with the effects of a sinful world and sinful people. So not all adults would watch after a child and some would even kidnap and molest a child. That is evil and sick. It's not how God designed the original world. Pedophiles go against every natural inclination that God built in them. They have rebelled to such an extent against God's design that sin has them in complete bondage and satan is laughing at them. We also know that not all women and men can have children. God knows what He is doing and why. They haven't failed, but a fallen world distorts God's original design. God can redeem all things and our bodies will be redeemed in the end and we will be given back our perfect, immortal bodies.

Now, back to our verses today. God designed and made our bodies to include sex and we saw the reason for sex was for procreation. God established a marriage between Adam and Eve and then told them to go forth and multiply. Your body is designed to have sex and to reach a sexual peak for a period of years. God provided a way for you to use and enjoy that experience in a safe way... marriage.

In the verses today, God is saying He provided a marriage relationship between a man and woman so they can express themselves sexually and safely. They can enjoy each other and fulfill the purpose to procreate. God created sex and He doesn't tell you not to enjoy it. He tells you to enjoy it within your marriage! It's for your own safety. It's to fulfill God's purpose of sex - to procreate. And it's to bind a husband and wife together as one so that, when they are in need, they have each other to help.

In today's world, modern people think we have removed all consequences of sex outside of marriage and they think we should be enjoying sex with anyone, anywhere, any time and with no constraints. We have created birth control and condoms and medical treatments for STDs so we can do whatever we want and disregard God's commands. But we are also finding out the devastation that sexual "freedom" brings. Freedom is the opposite of what it is! It leads to bondage, not freedom. Pornography addicts, sexual addicts, sexual perversions such as homosexuality, pedophilia, incest, bestiality, sexual violence. People become so obsessed with sex that every minute of every day is consumed with planning, grooming, searching, chatting, texting, preparing, the act, taking care of the consequences afterwards with lying, deceiving, creating alibis, etc. Our society today wants to make all of this "normal". Every TV show, movie, book, magazine, or songs talk about sex and it's perversions as normal as eating an apple pie. Why of course men go to stripper bars. Why of course, now women go to male stripper bars. Of course, men and women parties have strippers. Of course men watch pornography on their computers. Of course, young men use women and vice versa. Of course it's natural and normal to tie each other up and wear some kind of weird costumes. Of course, homosexuality is normal and a celebrated lifestyle. We should be giving them parades and surrounding them with rainbows. The world is desperately trying to make our sexual aberrations and sins acceptable and it's a "powerful delusion".

2 Thessalonians 2: 10-12 (NIV)  10 They perish because they refused to love the truth and so be saved. 11 For this reason God sends them a powerful delusion so that they will believe the lie 12 and so that all will be condemned who have not believed the truth but have delighted in wickedness.

Sin is not acceptable. God hasn't changed and His Word never changes. We think we can be God and make all sin acceptable and celebrate it. But it doesn't change the results and consequences. God loves every human being He created. He has provided a way for every human being, no matter the sin, to be forgiven and cleansed. He has given His Holy Spirit to live within us in order to enable us to keep away from sin. A built-in power that gives us all we need to say, "NO!" And, when we don't say no and we fall into it again, we can repent and ask His forgiveness again. We can start new because His mercy and grace is new every morning!

God says sex is between a husband and a wife. No other relationship has God's permission to have sex. You cannot have sex outside of marriage without consequences. But within your marriage, you may enjoy sex with your spouse. In these verses, God says we can enjoy sex. Let your wife (or husband) be a blessing to you. May you rejoice in the sex between you and your spouse. May you be intoxicated and captivated by your spouse.

Did you know that you can treat your spouse like the King or Queen of the household and the result is better sex? If you concentrate on loving, respecting and honoring your spouse, you will experience better sex as well as a deeper and more meaningful relationship. God says sex within the marriage makes us as one. It cements our relationship. The two become one. As one, we need each other. We depend on each other. We have the same heart about things. We care about what the other thinks. We want to know where the other one is and if they are safe. We share memories and experience fun times together. We also share the bad times together. My husband knows how I like my coffee and I know what he would order at a restaurant. I can order for him before he even gets there. I know he likes his tea with half sweetened and half unsweetened. He knows I don't like lettuce with my Mexican dinners and that I prefer beans over rice. We know what each other thinks and generally how they would react. Over our 42+ years of marriage, we have become one.

This oneness started with love. Sex came from that love and cemented the oneness. Our marriage has suffered many ups and downs; good times and bad times. But we've remained together because the tearing of one back into two is too devastating. I don't think I could finish my life out without wondering where he was and if he was safe. I don't think I would ever get over thinking, "Stan would enjoy this" or "Stan needs that." That's why the death of a spouse is so heartrending. It is a tearing away a part of yourself. Divorce is bad too. You don't just get over it. God created that oneness when the world was sinless. But sin brought sin and death and we suffer the consequences.

God's way is the best plan for human beings and that plan hasn't changed since Adam and Eve. It was to find your loved one, marry and enjoy sex within your marriage. It was to be fruitful and multiply. It was to take care of your family and rear godly children. Unfortunately, sinful human beings have corrupted this plan. A fallen world has death and sin in it and it corrupts the original plan. It makes me long for the day when God restores all things. He will redeem our bodies as incorruptible and He will redeem the world and heavens with a New Earth and a New Heaven. He will establish His perfection once again and those of us who are saved through Jesus Christ will enjoy His perfection for eternity! Until then, we must follow God's ways for the best possible result. It won't be perfect but it will get us as close as we can get to it.

1 Thessalonians 3:3-8 (NLT, parenthesis mine)  3 For it is God’s will that you should be holy: You must abstain from sexual immorality; 4 each of you must know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, 5 not in lustful passion like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 and no one should ever violate or exploit his brother (or sister) in this regard, because the Lord will avenge all such acts, as we have already told you and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us to impurity, but to holiness. 8 Anyone, then, who rejects this command does not reject man but God, the very One who gives you His Holy Spirit.

  • Did you think sex was sinful? Did you ever realize that God created men and women for sex but within the parameters of marriage? Sex is a blessing as long as it's within God's boundaries.
  • Did you realize that the world's "sexual freedom" was actually sexual bondage? Isn't it just like satan to label and advertise something totally different from reality? Journal about that and think the thought through.
  • Have you found a soulmate? Did you marry him/her? Did you keep the sanctity of sex within the marriage? If you did, journal about why it was good and right. If you didn't, maybe God is leading you to repentance right now. He loves you and forgives you. Stop and pray.
  • Sinners and a fallen world affect God's perfect plan. Maybe you are married but your spouse doesn't respond sexually. Maybe you can't have children. Maybe outside influences are affecting your relationship. Maybe sin is coming between the two of you. Maybe you've lost your spouse to divorce or death. None of these were God's perfect plan. But they happen due to sin and death in this world. Do believe God can redeem your situation? God is in the miracle working business and if you are trying to follow His commandments and be obedient, He can redeem any situation. "All things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose" Romans 8:28. Pray about it and try to be obedient to God's leading and guidance and watch Him redeem.
  • Are you single and waiting to meet that soulmate? Be sure to wait in an attitude of gratitude and don't fall into pressure from the outside world. Some people, God calls to be single. And, believe me, it would be best to be single than to jump into marriage with the wrong person! Some people have to wait longer than others. Some people wait too long. God knows what He is doing and if you are truly submissive to His plan and you are obedient to His commands, He will do what is best for you. Be sure to pray until you feel truly submissive to His Will. We tend to be rebellious and jump into things we think we want. Be willing to accept from His Hand and not grab what we think we want and what we think is best. You and I both know we can justify anything. So stick to God's plan, be obedient, wait with submission and gratitude and watch what God has in store for you!

For all my studies on Proverbs click HERE.

Thursday, January 09, 2020

Proverbs 5:11-14

Proverbs 5:11-14 (NIV)  11 At the end of your life you will groan,
when your flesh and body are spent.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
How my heart spurned correction!
13 I would not obey my teachers
or turn my ear to my instructors.
14 And I was soon in serious trouble
in the assembly of God’s people.”

Proverbs 5:11-14 (NLT)  11 In the end you will groan in anguish
when disease consumes your body.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
13 Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?
14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin,
and now I must face public disgrace.”

Deuteronomy 32:29 If only they were wise and would understand this and discern what their end will be!

Isaiah 47:7 You said, 'I will be queen forever.' You did not take these things to heart or consider their outcome.

If you don't listen to good advice and stay away from the strange woman who entices you sexually, you will one day come to the end of the matter, you will be in mental anguish, bad health and have squandered your blessings.

This "groaning" is actually a loud wail of despair which indicates mental suffering. "Your flesh and body" indicates the whole of your fleshly, earthly body will be consumed in diseases that had their start in your debauchery. It could be sexual diseases, the wasting from drugs and alcohol, premature aging, hepatitis and infections, etc. All the diseases that come from a risk filled lifestyle. You wasted the good health God gave you and abused your body and now the consequences have set in. You have wasted the intelligence that God gave you and now your mind reels in mental anguish and your memory is shot. You wasted the money and resources God blessed you with by spending them on drugs, alcohol, smoking, wild women (or men), parties and now you don't have enough to live on. You have wasted the opportunities God blessed you with in education. A free public (or private) school education, maybe college education and you squandered those opportunities in order to spend your time by partying.

I think of so many young people who finally graduate high school. Not everyone in the world has that opportunity. Many never receive any education, much less all the way through high school. Then these immature teenagers receive scholarships or their parents pay for them to go on to college! What a blessing because not everyone gets that chance! I didn't! But so many of these young people only see college as a chance to get out of the house and move into a teenage "heaven" full of parties, drinking, sex and wild living. They can't keep up their grades, they flunk expensive classes, they don't take the opportunity to learn and educate themselves... they've wasted the expensive opportunity God gave them. If they ever do graduate, they still have so little education for the money they spent because they wasted the opportunity to learn!

Maybe they are offered a good job. But they waste that opportunity because they have no work ethic. They come in late, leave early, steal, take every opportunity to avoid actually working, and before long they lose their job. A waste of a blessing.

Maybe they find a good person to marry but they waste that wonderful opportunity to have a good marriage because they either won't marry them or they marry them and run around on them, partying and abusing their trust and it ends in divorce. How many expensive weddings have parents given their children only to see the marriage end in divorce. A selfish, immature, spoiled brat cannot function in a long-term relationship because, in their mind, it's all about them.

In the end, these people will look back on all the missed opportunities and all the squandered and wasted blessings. Their life is a path of trash. They've trashed all the good that came their way: wadded it up and thrown it on the ground as just so much trash. Why would God continue to give you any blessings, when you've been so ungrateful and treated His largesse as just so much trash?

Thank God, He is merciful and gracious, slow to anger! He is holding out the biggest blessing of all... Jesus Christ! With repentance, Jesus forgives and washes all the sin away. You may still have to deal with the consequences, but you can be forgiven and start again. Please, never forget that! God is holding out that forgiveness, in a free offer of salvation, until your last breath. Once you've died, the offer is no longer on the table. But He will offer it to you all the way to the end. But don't take that for granted because you never know when your end will be. A plane could fall out of the sky right now and land on your house and your life is instantly over. You had no time to accept Jesus Christ. So best to accept Him now.

  • There were three things mentioned in these verses that happen when you don't follow the good advice of godly wisdom. What were they?
  • What are some of the reasons you can think why young people refuse to follow godly wisdom and disobey God? Are the reasons worth it?
  • Can you think why there would be the loud wail of mental anguish when someone doesn't follow godly wisdom?
  • Losing your health to risky life choices is sad when God warned you about it all along. Have you ever suffered in your body due to disobeying God and not following godly wisdom? If you haven't, aren't you glad you didn't?
  • Did anything come to your mind when we talked about wasting and squandering God's gifts and blessings? Do you need to repent of doing any of that yourself? If so, God is ready to forgive. Go to Him. Do you know someone who is doing that now and needs your prayers?

For all my studies on Proverbs click HERE.

Proverbs 5:7-10

Proverbs 5:7-10 (KJV) 7 Now therefore, my sons, listen to me. Don't depart from the words of my mouth.
8 Remove your way far from her. Don't come near the door of her house,
9 lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one;
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth, and your labors enrich another man's house.

Proverbs 5:7-10 (NIV) 7 Now then, my sons, listen to me;
do not turn aside from what I say.
8 Keep to a path far from her,
do not go near the door of her house,
9 lest you lose your honor to others
and your dignity to one who is cruel,
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth
and your toil enrich the house of another.

Proverbs 5:7-10 (NLT) 7 So now, my sons, listen to me.
Never stray from what I am about to say:
8 Stay away from her!
Don’t go near the door of her house!
9 If you do, you will lose your honor
and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.

Proverbs 5:7-10 (CEV) 7 My son, listen to me
and do everything I say.
8 Stay away from a bad woman!
Don't even go near the door
of her house.
9 You will lose your self-respect
and end up in debt
to some cruel person
for the rest of your life.
10 Strangers will get your money
and everything else
you have worked for.

Strong's Exhaustive Concordance
you concede - תִּתֵּ֣ן (nathan, tit·tên) - Verb - Qal - Imperfect - second person masculine singular Strong's Hebrew 5414: To give, put, set
Brown-Driver-Briggs English Hebrew Lexicon adds: give, permit, bestow

your vigor - הוֹדֶ֑ךָ (hod, hō·w·ḏe·ḵā) = Noun - masculine singular construct | second person masculine singular Strong's Hebrew 1935: Splendor, majesty, vigor

to one who is cruel - לְאַכְזָרִֽי׃ (akzari, lə·’aḵ·zā·rî) - Preposition-l | Adjective - masculine singular Strong's Hebrew 394: Terrible, cruel

You don't want to waste your best years of life with women who are takers. This goes for women as well. You don't want to waste your best years of life with men who are takers. People like this will only use you and throw you away once you are no longer useful to them. It may be they like your good looks, but looks fade with age. It may be they like your money, but once it's gone they aren't interested in you anymore. It may be they like your power and status but that never lasts. Once you are no longer president of the company, President of the United States, Senator, Class President, football quarterback... they don't show up any more. They may like you for the drugs and alcohol you provide but they disappear when it's gone.

There are people in this world that are out for themselves only and care not one wit about anyone else. When you don't do what they want you to do and are no longer their puppet, you will be tossed aside. You are welcome only as long as you are useful and attractive to them. You find out who your real friends are when you have the flu. Real friends will strap on a face mask and bring you soup or take you to the doctor. But everyone else will stay far away from you so they don't get sick. When it comes to a spouse, you want one who will go through thick and thin with you. If you get sick and need someone to wipe your tail end, it's your spouse who will be there if you have chosen wisely.

You, also, need to be the kind of person who will be there for your spouse. Don't be a user and slide away when things don't go the way you want. You may have a spouse that needs you to wipe their tail end when they get sick. (Sorry, I know that's crude but it really does come to that in the end.)

My Mom and Dad got married in 1956. They celebrated their 50th anniversary in 2006. She died of dementia in 2018. He died unexpectedly of a pulmonary embolism 4 months later. Let me tell you a little about them. They met at a little Baptist college in the NC mountains called Mars Hill. They were not allowed to kiss or hold hands or touch on campus. She was majoring in music and he in engineering. They met in the cafeteria when she was working as a server. He caught her eye immediately and vice versa. Later they sat outside with friends and talked. Their first date was on a class field trip with a hundred other students on buses. From then on they were inseparable. He visited her family by hitchhiking to their home. She visited his family. They graduated the 2 yr college in the Spring and married in December, 1956. She went to work and he went to NC State to finish his college. His parents had paid for his 2 yrs at Mars Hill but once they got married, they were on their own. (Again, not because the parents didn't love their son and his new wife, but once you got married, you became your own responsibility. That's the way it was and went without saying. Once you got married, you were considered a grownup and grownups made their own way.) So she worked as a secretary and they lived in tiny apartments until he graduated. Then he got a job at TVA (Tennessee Valley Authority) as an hydraulics engineer and they moved them all over Tennessee. I came along in 1959. My sisters were born 2 and 4 years later. My Mother worked off and on whenever needed but my Dad knew we were his responsibility as the breadwinner. After we graduated high school and got married (we all married right after high school), she went to work fulltime at a couple of places. She also tried to start her own businesses that never took off. The last one was a large daycare and they went bankrupt over that one. But my Dad never once complained where we heard him. That last try of hers cost them everything but he stood by her and never complained. He loved her and she was worth any amount of money to him. Her dementia was the cruelest joke of all. She remembered her husband and children almost til the end. We were her most important assets and she let us know all the time how much she loved us and how proud she was of us. But the last month or so, she couldn't even remember us and couldn't talk anymore. But my Dad took care of her in every way and put up with all the agonies of dementia. We were just on the point of having to do something as she could barely walk to the bathroom when she died in her sleep. My Dad had taken her to the bathroom, had fed her and seated her in a wheelchair in front of the TV and went to wash the breakfast dishes. When he came back, she was gone.

Now that is devotion and love. If the roles had been reversed, my Mother would have done the same for him. When they were young, handsome/beautiful, full of energy... it's easy to love. But that never lasts. You either age or you die. So make sure you are looking in the right places for that special someone who will be there in the end. When everyone else is gone and you are by yourselves, will that person still be there? Will you still be there? When you've lost everything like my parents did, will you still be there? Will your spouse still be there? When you have dementia, will your spouse wipe your mouth, feed you, help you in the bathroom? Will you do that?

Don't waste your best years on people who won't be there. Don't be a user and don't keep users around you.

Con artist scams elderly man out of thousands, claims she has cancer
By: Angela Brown, Posted: 6:03 PM, Jan 28, 2015 Updated: 9:33 PM, Jan 28, 2015

MUSKEGON COUNTY, Mich. —   Michigan State Police say a Maryland woman scamed an elderly Muskegon man out of tens of  thousands of dollars after claiming she had cancer.
MSP say  20-year old Jessica Travers met a Muskegon man on a flight from Detroit to Virginia and convinced him that she was a cancer victim with two small children who was trying to find a way to pay for medical treatments.  She gave the victim a fake name and age and told him she was waiting for a large financial settlement but needed money in the meantime  to pay for chemotherapy.  The victim, who was living on social security, agreed to loan the woman the money until she could pay him back from a settlement and earnings from  her online financial business.
Investigators say Travers visited the victim in Michigan, obtained his personal information and opened numerous credit cards in his name without his knowledge.  Investigators say Travers charged over 80-thousand dollars worth of items and obtained cash advances of over 40-thousand dollars.  She also falsified a loan application for a car which the victim agreed to purchase for her so she could drive to and from her medical treatments.
To obtain more money, they say she convinced the victim she was in the hospital in Grand Rapids and needed additional money for a mastectomy. Investigators learned she was actually traveling throughout the country with her boyfriend spending money at the Crowne Plaza in New York City,  buying  designer shoes from Christian Louboutin and makeup from Gucci.
In May 2013, Travers was featured on “Dateline” after she posted a fraudulent ad on Craigslist saying she was 35 years old and interested in meeting an older man if he wired her 75-hundred dollars. She was exposed during and undercover sting operation.
Travers and her boyfriend were stopped in Baltimore, MD last  Thursday and charged with unlawful possession of a motor vehicle.  She  is currently in jail  in Baltimore Maryland.  She is facing charges of unlawful possession of a motor vehicle and larceny by false pretenses over 20-thousand dollars. Detectives from the Michigan State Police are working with Baltimore PD and the Muskegon County Prosecutor’s office to extradite her back to Michigan
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Mary Carleton was a 17th century Englishwoman. After two failed and simultaneous marriages (bigamy), a resulting bigamy trial, and a fling with a wealthy nobleman, Mary Carleton fled England for the Netherlands. It was upon her return that she remade herself as Princess van Wolway from Cologne. With this ruse, she seduced and sometimes wed a string of men, playing each only to rob them. It's believed many of her victims were too embarrassed to reveal her deceit. Her spurned lovers finally spoke up earning Carleton a death sentence by hanging at the age of 30.

A Londonderry woman has been conned out of £20,500 by an online romance scammer. Police said the man claimed to be a soldier and asked her for money, claiming his account was frozen.

Don't let others steal your hard earned money in romance or "sweetheart" scams.

I mentioned, in one of my earlier posts, an elderly man who had been using prostitutes. Those prostitutes and their "friends" weren't satisfied with what he paid them. They saw other things in his home and yard that could be stolen. One day he was coming home and passed his other car. One of the male "friends" of the prostitutes had stolen his other car from his garage in broad daylight and was driving off with it! They have stolen everything they could get their hands on.

If unscrupulous people find out you have anything of value, they will target you. They will be your best buds until they get a chance to take everything you have. It may be online scams. It may be stealing your wallet. It may be breaking into your home and stealing. It may be cons. But you have to be careful not to associate yourself with these kinds of users and takers.

Proverbs 5:8-10  8 Stay away from a bad woman!
Don't even go near the door of her house.
9 You will lose your self-respect and end up in debt to some cruel person for the rest of your life.
10 Strangers will get your money and everything else you have worked for.

You don't want to lose your good reputation, your honor, your dignity, your self respect by hanging around these kinds of people. You think you gain respect and some kind of honor by partying with these people. You think others see you as cool because you can drink so much or you have sex with a lot of girls (or guys)? That's not the kind of bragging and honor you want. That's upside down thinking. You think you've risen to the top of a mountain when you're actually touching the bottom of a pit because you are hanging upside down. It's behavior you should be ashamed of and not proud of. If you don't turn things around, you will wake up one day in that pit and not know how to get out. Don't even go there! Don't go to that party! Don't go out with that kind of girl or guy! Don't hang out with those kinds of people! Stay away and don't even go near!

  • Does someone come to mind when you think of a user? Have you seen them in action?
  • Have you been a user? Is God revealing something in yourself that you need to repent of? He loves you and will forgive you.
  • Have you lost money on loose women and wild men? Maybe you are in a relationship with one now that is just using you, taking from you. I'm not talking about a husband and wife who are walking together in a relationship of love and give and take. I'm talking about a woman who isn't married and she's working but her boyfriend has moved into her home and lets her pay for everything so he can party and snooze at her expense. I'm talking about a man who isn't married and he's working but his girlfriend makes him pay for her drugs, her alcohol, her partying with friends. You need to re-think your relationship. It would be better to be alone than letting someone use you. They will leave on their own once they've got all they want out of you. Don't let them do that to you.
  • Have you confused yourself with upside down thinking? Did you think you were king of the hill because you could get drunk or high? Did everyone applaud you as you binged on drugs or alcohol? Do you feel like a stud because you get sex? If you think this behavior through to it's conclusion, you will see it's upside down thinking. You are falling into a pit instead of being top dog. Maybe it's time to think and journal about this. Roll your life out and see what your behavior will lead to.

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Wednesday, January 08, 2020

James Gist Prince, Jr.

James Gist Prince, Jr. was born to James Gist Prince, Sr. (DOB Bet. 1827-1830 in Union County, SC; DOD 11/5/1862 in Richmond, Henrico County, VA) and Nancy Angelina Johnson (DOB 4/10/1834 in Union County, SC James Johnson, Jr. and Dosia Ray; DOD 6/8/1915 in Union County, SC).

James and Nancy Angelina Johnson Prince had 5 sons: H. Napoleon Prince, Collins Swede Prince, Clarence Rhett Prince, Ralston Loranzo Prince, James Gist Prince, Jr.

Ralston Loranzo Prince and his wife are buried at Sandy Springs United Methodist Church Cemetery.

Stan is descended from Clarence Rhett Prince.

1850 U.S. Census of Union County, South Carolina; Roll: M432_859; Page: 3B; Image: 256, Lines 20-28, "Milly Prince"
Milly Prince, 66 yrs old, F(emale), W(hite), Head, Born in SC
Samuel Prince, 29 yrs old, M, W, Planter, $1,500 Real Estate Value, Born in SC
Gist Prince, 20 yrs old, M, W, Laborer, Born in SC, Attended school
Elizabeth Prince, 30 yrs old, F, W, Born in SC
Martha Prince, 27 yrs old, F, W, Born in SC, Cannot read or write
Prussia Prince (sic, Precia Prince), 25 yrs old, F, W, Born in SC
Lucinda Prince, 22 yrs old, F, W, Born in SC, Cannot read or write
William Wilbanks, 21 yrs old, M, W, Laborer, Born in SC
Simpson Malone, 15 yrs old, M, W, Laborer, Born in SC

1860 U.S. Census of Union County, South Carolina; Roll: M653_1227; Page: 194; Family History Library Film: 805227, Lines 32-40, "Gist Prince"
Gist Prince, 33 yrs old, M(ale), W(hite), Farmer, $2,000 Real Estate Value, $4,000 Personal Estate Value, Born in SC
Nancy Prince, 25 yrs old, F, W, Born in SC
Napoleon Prince, 6 yrs old, M, W, Born in SC
Colon Prince (sic, Collin Swede Prince), 4 yrs old, M, W, Born in SC
Clarence Prince, 3 yrs old, M, W, Born in SC
Ralston Prince, 5/12 mos old, M, W, Born in SC
William Prince, 75 yrs old, M, W, Farmer, Born in SC
Patsy Prince, 42 yrs old, F, W, Born in SC
Lucinda Prince, 35 yrs old, F, W, Born in SC
William Easter, 23 yrs old, M, W, Farm Laborer, Born in SC
William Barnett, 18 yrs old, M, W, Farm Laborer, Born in SC
Leonard (blank ?), 16 yrs old, M, W, Farm Laborer, Born in SC

James Gist Prince, Jr. was born 6/9/1862 in Union County, SC. His father enlisted in the C.S.A. SC 18th Infantry Regiment, Co. C. as a Private. He was admitted on 10/6/1861 to the hospital and died 30 days later on 11/5/1862. Nancy Angelina Johnson Prince had a newborn baby and couldn't go to get his body. Polly Sparks, a family friend, took the train and brought his body back by wagon. He is buried somewhere in Padgett Creek Baptist Church cemetery. He has a stone that was installed much later and by then, no one knew where he had been buried. Nancy Johnson Prince married Henry Burnett (DOB Abt. 1844 in SC; DOD After 1880 in ? ) and they had Thomas Malcolm Burnett. Although she had inherited land from her father and her 1st husband, she and her children were destitute after the War. After Henry Burnett died, they lived with her sister, Paulina Johnson who married James William Burnett (1833-1864). She had also lost her husband and had 4 children. Paulina Johnson Burnett died 3/7/1908 in Cross Keys, Union County, SC. Nancy was living with her children as they grew up. Nancy Angelina Johnson Prince Burnett died 6/8/1915 in Union County, SC.

1870 U.S. Census of Cross Keys, Union County, South Carolina; Roll: M593_1510; Page: 359A; Family History Library Film: 553009, Lines 37-40, "Nancy Prince"
Nancy Prince, 34 yrs old, F (emale), W (hite), Farmer, $600 Real Estate Value, $150 Personal Estate Value, Born in SC, Cannot read or write
Napoleon Prince, 16 yrs old, M, W, At home, Born in SC, Attended school
Collins Prince, 14 yrs old, M, W, At home, Born in SC, Attended school
Retty Prince (Clarence Rhett Prince), 12 yrs old, M, W, At home, Born in SC
Rawlston Prince (sic, Ralston Loranzo Prince), 10 yrs old, M, W, At home, Born in SC
Gist Prince, 6 yrs old, M, W, At home, Born in SC, Born in SC

1880 U.S. Census of Cross Keys, Union County, South Carolina; Roll: 1242; Page: 454A; Enumeration District: 152, Lines 31-38, "Henry Burnett"
Henry Burnett, W(hite), M(ale), 35 yrs old, Head, Married, Farmer, Cannot read or write, Born in SC, Father born in SC, Father born in NC
Nancy A. Burnett, W, F, 45 yrs old, Wife, Married, Keeping house, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Malcum Burnett (sic, Malcolm Burnett), W, M, 9 yrs old, Son, At home, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Madora Burnett, W, F, 16 yrs old, Daughter, Single, Farm Laborer, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
William Burnett, W, M, 13 yrs old, Son, Single, Farm Laborer, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Ralston Prince, W, M, 20 yrs old, Son, Single, Farm Laborer, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Gist Prince, W, M, 17 yrs old, Son, Single, Farm Laborer, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Nancy Burnett, W, F, 65 yrs old, Mother, No occupation, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC

1900 U.S. Census of Cross Anchor, Spartanburg County, South Carolina; Roll:  T623_ 1541; Page:  12B; Enumeration District:  86, Lines 95-97, "Thomas M. Burnam" sic, looks like Thomas M. Burnett but is indexed by Ancestry.com as Thomas M. Burnam
Thomas M. Burnam, Head, W(hite), M(ale), Born July, 1872, 28 yrs old, Married 0 yrs (DOM 1900), Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Weaver at cotton mill, Can read and write
Alma Burnam, Wife, W, F, Born March, 1880, 20 yrs old, Married 0 yrs, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Weaver at cotton mill, Can read and write
Nancy J. Burnam, Mother, W, F, Born April, 1835, 65 yrs old, Single, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, 1 child with 1 still living, Can read and write

1910 U.S. Census of Cross Keys, Union County, South Carolina; Roll: T624_1474; Page: 3A; Enumeration District: 0112; FHL microfilm: 1375487, Lines 14-18, "Clarence R. Prince"
Clarence R. Prince, Head, M(ale), W(hite), 52 yrs old, 1st Marriage, Married 33 yrs, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Miller/Farmer, Grist Mill, Can read and write, Rents farm
Alice E. Prince, Wife, F, W, 51 yrs old, 1st Marriage, Married 33 yrs, 3 children with 3 still living, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Victor C. Prince, Son, M, W, 27 yrs old, Single, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Laborer on home farm
Nancy Burnett, Mother, F, W, 74 yrs old, Widowed, 6 children with 4 still living, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Martha Briggs, Sister-in-law, F, W, 57 yrs old, Single, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC

James Gist Prince, Jr. was born 6/9/1862 in Union County, SC. He married Sally Armeda Briggs (DOB 7/26/1870 in Union County, SC) on 8/15/1889 in Union County, SC. They had 5 girls and 4 boys:

1) Bernice Gist Prince (DOB 11/8/1891 in Union County, SC; DOD 2/12/1977 in Union County, SC) married ? Stanley and Ernest Dieckmann (DOB 8/1/1905 in ? ; DOD 9/5/1982 in ? ). She is buried at Padgett's Creek Baptist Church, 843 Old Buncombe Rd (State Road S-44-18), Cross Keys, Union County, SC.

2) Lula Belle Prince (DOB 12/16/1893 in Cross Keys, Union County, SC; DOD 9/2/1980 in ? ) married Thomas Francis Bennett (DOB 10/13/1901 in Washington, DC; DOD 4/24/1979 in Arlington, VA). They had Rita Bennett. She is buried at National Memorial Park, West Falls Church, Fairfax County, Virginia, USA.

3) Ann Beatrice Prince (DOB 8/30/1895 in Cross Keys, Union County, SC: DOD 1/1982 in Washington, DC) married Thomas Ward Joy (DOB 11/28/1889 in Washington, DC; DOD 11/1967 in Maryland, USA). No known children. They are buried at Rock Creek Cemetery, Washington, DC.

4) Claridge Pool Prince (DOB 6/30/1898 in Union County, SC; DOD 8/24/1959 in Washington, DC) married Lucille Cox (DOB 6/30/1909 in ? ; DOD 3/20/1975 in Greenville, Greenville County, SC). He married Amberozine Gallman (DOB 8/13/1909 in SC; DOD 11/1982 in Columbia, Richland County, SC). Amberozine Gallman had been married before to Jesse Elmore Wray (DOB 11/3/1907 in NC; DOD 3/14/1959 in Richland County, SC). Claridge Prince and Amberozine Gallman had William "Billy" Gist Prince. They are buried at Rocky Creek Baptist Church Cemetery, Greenville, Greenville County, SC.

1930 U.S. Census of Union, Union County, South Carolina; Page: 3B; Enumeration District: 0020; FHL microfilm: 2341949, Lines 94-98, "J.Will Gallman"
J.Will Gallman, Head, Rents home, M(ale), W(hite), 44 yrs old, Married, Married at 22 yrs old, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents bron in SC, Weaver in cotton mill
Maggie Gallman, Wife, F, W, 42 yrs old, Married, Married at age 20 yrs old, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Augustine Gallman, Daughter, F, W, 18 yrs old, Single, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Weaver at cotton mill
Claridge P. Prince, Head, Rents home, M, W, 24 yrs old, Married, Married at 24 yrs old, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Salesman at filling station
Ambrozine Prince, Wife, F, W, 20 yrs old, Married, Married at age 20 yrs old, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Weaver at cotton mill

The Greenville News, Greenville SC, 8/25/1959, Pg 5

 The Greenville News, 12/27/1949, Pg 16

 The Greenville News, Greenville, SC, 2/7/1953, Pg 2

The Greenville News, Greenville, SC, 2/26/1953, Pg 2

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The Greenville News, Greenville, SC, 4/23/1953, Pg 5

5) Charles Albert Prince (DOB 4/13/1901 in Cross Keys, Union County, SC; DOD 5/17/1940 in Veteran's Hospital, Columbia, Richland County, SC). He died unmarried and had tuberculosis. He is buried at Padgett's Creek Baptist Church, 843 Old Buncombe Rd (State Road S-44-18), Cross Keys, Union County, SC.

6) Russell Prince (DOB 7/9/1904 in Cross Keys, Union County, SC; DOD 1/24/1987 in Union County, SC) married Ada Ruth Smith (DOB 11/26/1913 in SC; DOD 2/23/1988 in Spartanburg, Spartanburg County, SC). They had Dr. Russell Bruce Prince and Alice Rebecca "Becky" Prince Howell. They are buried at Padgett's Creek Baptist Church, 843 Old Buncombe Rd (State Road S-44-18), Cross Keys, Union County, SC.

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7) Bess L. Prince (DOB 7/13/1906 in Union County, SC; DOD 2/1973 in Silver Spring, Montgomery County, MD) married Daniel Mack Dees (DOB 9/26/1905 in Cumberland County, NC; DOD 12/6/1960 in Asheville, Buncombe County, NC). She divorced Dees in 1942 and married Ira Leroy Tucker (DOB 9/21/1894 in Washington, DC; DOD 10/14/1957 in Columbiana, OH) in 1944. No children. They are buried at Oak Grove Cemetery, Bowling Green, Wood County, OH.

8) Eunice Myrtle Prince (DOB 3/2/1909 in Union County, SC; DOD 7/13/1966 in ? ). Never married. She is buried at Padgett's Creek Baptist Church, 843 Old Buncombe Rd (State Road S-44-18), Cross Keys, Union County, SC.

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9) William Aubrey Prince (DOB 4/17/1912 in Cross Keys, Union County, SC; DOD 4/25/1975 in Union County, SC) married Katie Elizabeth Brown (DOB 5/30/1913 in Cabool, Texas County, MO; DOD 9/28/2000 in San Diego County, CA) in 1936. They had Virginia Armeda Prince Crandall, Pamela Prince Johnson. Married Judith E. "Judy" Perry (DOB Abt. 1927 in ? ; DOD ? in ? ) in 1966. They had Patricia Prince Franklin. He is buried in Glendora, Los Angeles County, CA.

1910 U.S. Census of Cross Keys, Union County, South Carolina; Roll: T624_1474; Page: 4B; Enumeration District: 0111; FHL microfilm: 1375487, Lines 90-100, "James G. Prince"
James G. Prince, Head, M(ale), W(hite), 47 yrs old, 1st Marriage, Married 20 yrs, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Farmer, Can read and write, Owns farm free of mortgage
Media Prince, Wife, F, W, 39 yrs old, 1st Marriage, Married 20 yrs, 8 children with 8 still living, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Can read and write
Bernice Prince, Daughter, F, W, 18 yrs old, Single, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Belle Prince, Daughter, F, W, 16 yrs old, Single, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Beatrice Prince, Daughter, F, W, 14 yrs old, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Claridge Prince, Son, M, W, 11 yrs old, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Charlie Prince, Son, M, W, 9 yrs old, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Russell Prince, Son, M, W, 5 yrs old, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Bessie Prince, Daughter, F, W, 3 yrs old, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Eunice Prince, Daughter, F, W, 1 yr 2/12 mos old, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC

1920 U.S. Census of Cross Keys, Union County, South Carolina; Roll: T625_1713; Page: 2A; Enumeration District: 130, Lines 48-50, "James G. Prince"
James G. Prince, Head, Owns farm, M(ale), W(hite), 47 yrs old, Married, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Farmer
Media Prince, Wife, F, W, 47 yrs old, Married, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Bernice Prince, Daughter, F, W, 28 yrs old, Single, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Teaching grade school
Belle Prince, Daughter, F, W, 26 yrs old, Single, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Teacher at high school
Beatrice Prince, Daughter, F, W, 24 yrs old, Single, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC, Teacher at grade school
Clorige Prince (sic, Claridge Prince), Son, M, W, 21 yrs old, Single, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Charles Prince, Son, M, W, 18 yrs old, Single, Can read and write, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Russell Prince, Son, M, W, 15 yrs old, Attends school, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Bess Prince, Daughter, F, W, 13 yrs old, Attends school, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
Eunice Prince, Daughter, F, W, 10 yrs old, Attends school, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC
William Prince, Son, M, W, 7 yrs old, Attends school, Born in SC, Both parents born in SC

James Gist Prince died 6/2/1938 in Cross Keys, Union County, SC.

The Greenville News, Greenville, SC, 6/5/1938, Pg 20

Sally Armeda Briggs Prince died 8/26/1950 in Columbia Hospital, Columbia, Richland County, SC

They are both buried with James Gist Prince, Sr. and Nancy Angelina Johnson Prince Burnett, Henry Burnett, 3 of James Gist Prince, Jr.'s brothers and both sets of great grandparents at Padgett's Creek Baptist Church, 843 Old Buncombe Rd (State Road S-44-18), Cross Keys, Union County, SC.

Tuesday, January 07, 2020

Proverbs 5:5-6

Proverbs 5:5-6 (KJV)  5 Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.
6 Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.

Proverbs 5:5-6 (NIV)  5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 She gives no thought to the way of life;
her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it.

Proverbs 5:5-6 (NLT)  5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 For she cares nothing about the path to life.
She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.

Proverbs 5:5-6 (CEV)  5 If you follow her, she will lead you down to the world of the dead.
6 She has missed the path that leads to life and doesn't even know it.

Proverbs 5:5-6 (BSB)  5 Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to Sheol. 6 She does not consider the path of life; she does not know that her ways are unstable.

Strong's Exhaustive Concordance
to death - מָ֑וֶת (maveth, mā·weṯ) - Noun - masculine singular
Strong's Hebrew 4194: Death, the dead, their place, state, pestilence, ruin
Brown-Driver-Briggs English Hebrew Lexicon adds: state of death or place of death

to Sheol - שְׁ֝א֗וֹל (sheol, ’ō·wl) - Noun - common singular
Strong's Hebrew 7585: Underworld (place to which people descend at death)

consider - תְּפַלֵּ֑ס (palas, tə·p̄al·lês) - Verb - Piel - Imperfect - third person feminine singular
Strong's Hebrew 6424: To roll flat, prepare, to revolve, weigh

the path - אֹ֣רַח (orach, ’ō·raḥ) - Noun - common singular construct
Strong's Hebrew 734: A well-trodden road, a caravan

of life - חַ֭יִּים (chay, ḥay·yîm) - Noun - masculine plural
Strong's Hebrew 2416: Alive, raw, fresh, strong, life

her ways - מַ֝עְגְּלֹתֶ֗יהָ (magal or magalah, ma‘·gə·lō·ṯe·hā) - Noun - feminine plural construct | third person feminine singular
Strong's Hebrew 4570: An entrenchment, track
Brown-Driver-Briggs English Hebrew Lexicon adds: course of action, or life

are unstable - נָע֥וּ (nua, nā·‘ū) - Verb - Qal - Perfect - third person common plural
Strong's Hebrew 5128: To quiver, wave, waver, tremble, totter

In our last study, Proverbs 5:4-5, we see that this is a woman who is a stranger to the family or the household. She is an adulteress, a harlot, a forbidden woman, a woman who is not your wife. We also know this was written from a father to a son but applies to women as well. A woman should not be tempted by a man who is a stranger to the family or the household, an adulterer, a forbidden man, any man who is not your husband.

Sheol refers to the grave or the abode of the dead. Both Christians and non-Christians go to Sheol but it is divided. One is a place of Paradise for the righteous through Jesus Christ. The other is a place of desperate torment for the unsaved. The wicked go to this place in Sheol called Hades. There is an uncrossable chasm that separates the two places in Sheol. We wait here until the end times. For Christians, Jesus resurrects our physical bodies which are now immortal and incorruptible and our spirit joins our bodies to live with Him forever. For the unsaved, their day of resurrection also comes but it is for them to be judged and cast into the Lake of Fire forever.

"Her feet go down to death, her steps take hold on hell". The word for hell is actually Sheol and other translations use Sheol or the place of the dead. What this is saying is that this woman's life has no other end but death. She has no future. She is wandering aimlessly through life on crooked paths, back and forth, without any care about her eternity.

This woman adapts to her surroundings and to who she is with. She is moveable, unstable. It's a game to her. Nothing, and no one, means anything to her except herself and what she wants at that moment.

Ecclesiastes 7:26 And I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whose heart is a net, and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God escapes her, but the sinner is ensnared.

To allure, she/he uses:
*Flattering words (Proverbs 6:24)

* Beauty (Proverbs 6:25)

* Flirtatious eye contact (Proverbs 6:25). They use body language and eye contact as a come on and a "come hither" look.

* Kisses (Proverbs 7:13)

* Pretending to be a good person (Proverbs 7:14)

* Romance (Proverbs 7:15)

* Creative lovemaking (Proverbs 7:16-18)

* Touch

* Safe rendezvous (Proverbs 7:19-20)

* Language. Whatever the environment or circumstances call for, their language adapts. They begin using foul language or suggestive words, sexual innuendos, double entendres. Sometimes, if the situation is such, they will just come out and ask for it.

* Alcohol and/or drugs to remove your inhibitions

* Dress in ways to deliberately catch your eyes. They want your attention and will do what it takes to get it.

* Texting and "sexting". They don't mind sharing photos of themselves without clothes or in sexual poses.

* Dance seductively, suggestively or downright vulgarly.

* Pornography

They make sure you know they are available and ready for sex with every artifice they can use to get you hot and bothered.

"Whores can play hard to get – or easy to have. They might be down and dirty – or upright and noble (Proverbs 7:14). They can offer love – or threaten revenge. They might take you with words – or with touches. They can be mysterious – or bold. They can appear to be slipping away – or promising eternal adoration. They can pretend to be innocent and virtuous – or they can be wildly bold. They will change to chain you to them!" - LetGodBeTrue.com

This is not to say that a girl or woman deserves to be mistreated in any way. No matter what artifices she uses to tempt you to a sexual liaison, she is still a human being whom God created and loves. She is redeemable. If she ever turns to God and repents, God loves her and she will be saved and forgiven just like you. This is not to say that a boy or a man deserves to be mistreated in any way. He may be strutting his stuff and thinking all the women want him. But he is a human being whom God loves.

Remember, it takes two to tango. If a man/woman is enticing you and trying to seduce you, you can walk away. But if you give in, you are to blame as much as the one who seduced you. You know better and you have the freedom of choice (unless we are talking about a rape which is a totally different story). This is a father warning a son (and could be a mother warning a daughter) of the dangers of promiscuous women (men). So the strange woman (or man) is not more sinful than you if you fall to their enticements. You are both in the wrong. You are both in need of repentance and forgiveness.

These two verses are saying that someone, who has no concern for their eternity and who lives for the moment, is unstable and has no future other than death. If you follow this person and fall into their lifestyle, you become like them. You will be no better. You also will be unstable and without a future, living for the moment. Searching for a high. Never finding anything of value.

I know of young men who are handsome, young, virile, educated, with jobs. They seem to have a future. But, in reality, they live for the weekends (or any leisure time) where they can "party" and sleep with any girl. They don't have a meaningful relationship. If they sleep with a girl more than once, she's considered a girlfriend until someone else catches their eye or the girlfriend no longer meets their needs for whatever reason. They just go from girl to girl. They aren't finding a girl to marry, just a girl to pump up their ego and give them sexual release. Then it's on to the next. Before they know it, they are in their 30's and still no wife or children. But women are still throwing themselves at them so they continue on in their aimless ways in the romance department. Then they are in their 40's and middle aged and no wife. Then they are in their 50's, not looking so good, not as many women interested. Then they are in their 60's. Nobody to share their life with. No wife (or husband) that you have shared memories with. Loneliness sets in. Then you begin to have health problems but there is no wife (or husband) to help you. I knew one man who had been a player all his life. He loved to brag about all his girlfriends and all the women who wanted to marry him but he never would. But then he was in his 60's and lonely in his house. He had no wife to share with and he began to have health problems but no one to help him. He became so lonely and in need of help that he advertised for a woman to marry him with the prospect of inheriting his money when he was gone. Of course, that's a dangerous thing to do. Unscrupulous women could come in, take over and even kill you for your money! Another man was in the same predicament and he purchased prostitutes to give him companionship only to find them stealing from him. They got the lay of the land, saw he was vulnerable and their men friends stole everything they could get their hands on in broad daylight! Another old man I know tried to contact old girlfriends to see if they were still interested and would marry him! Marrying an old man, with health problems who had refused to marry them back in the day?!? Who in their right mind would answer that call? These men, who were such players in the day, will grow old and lonely because they refused to put in the effort of cultivating a good marriage with a good woman. And the same can be said of women who once had a steady stream of boyfriends but who are now old and lonely because they didn't look for a good man and hold onto him. There are plenty of women out there that sold themselves short and are now without companionship.

Unfortunately, today, men have no problem finding one woman after another to use. Women have no dignity or self respect and literally throw themselves at boys/men to be used. I don't understand it. Women don't ask anything of the men they let use them (unless they are paid prostitutes and they ask for money). They don't even ask for the price of a nice dinner and movie before they have sex with a man! Men now expect women to have sex with them without even a date, or on the first date. They "hook up" in a parking lot, in the backseat of a car, out the back door, in a public restroom! So, men have no problem finding willing women who have so little self respect that they give their favors away for nothing. No commitments, not even a date or a 2nd date! A woman like that becomes nothing less than a public toilet for men to use. And a man who uses a woman like that has become nothing more than a spouting bidette for a woman to use.

My Mother told me, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" And she was so right. Why should a man take on the responsibility of a wife when he can get free sex? There is absolutely no reason for someone to gamble on a marriage. Why go to all the trouble when you get what you want for free? Why run the risk when there is no reason to?

When my husband married me, he took me as his financial responsibility. I eventually became disabled and cannot work. If he was the one who was disabled and couldn't work, and I was able, he would be my financial responsibility. It is no one else's responsibility. Not my parents, not his parents, not the government, not friends or family. We are each other's responsibility. When we got married his finances became mine and vice versa. We have a joint bank account and his money is mine and mine is his. That is how it's been from Day 1. I tease him that his job is to make the money and my job is to spend it. I try not to be irresponsible or abusive of his trust in me. Our parents didn't throw us out of the home, they've always been supportive, but not financially. It was understood, without having to be said, that once we were married, we were on our own and were responsible for our own finances. We had to pay our own bills. If something had happened and they had to take us in, we would have known to do everything in our power to "pay them back" whether it was financially or by doing chores, by being agreeable and trustworthy. I.e. so that they would not regret having helped us. And it would be temporary (unless it was something like a disability). They would have taken us in rather than left us on the street, no doubt! They knew the same for them. I always had room in case one or more of our parents had needed it. They would never abandon us and they would never have been abandoned. That's not what I mean. But we knew it was our responsibility to take care of ourselves. Thank God, we never experienced a time of devastation that put us back in our parents' home. God has been good and we've always paid our bills. My parents were welcome in our home and as they aged, it could have been a reality. But they both passed away before it became necessary. My husband's mother would be welcome in our home if she needed it. At her age, we've offered more than once, but she wants to stay in her own home for now. The only way we would have put them in a nursing home would have been if we couldn't physically care for them. I.e. if they had medical needs we couldn't take care of as we aren't doctors. And then it wouldn't have been to abandon them there but to continue to go and be sure they were well taken care of and they knew they were loved. Thank God we haven't had to go through these things but many have and I understand your pain and your decisions.

My husband also took me as his emotional responsibility and I took him as my emotional responsibility. He puts up with my crying or being mad and I put up with his temper tantrums or emotional see-saws. I also learned how to deal with his likes and dislikes and he learned how to deal with mine. There was give and take, cooperation, understanding, teamwork. Marriage is a LOT of work. You have to learn how to get along and work together.

Why would you take on the responsibility and the work to keep up a marriage when you think you can get all the benefits of a marriage for nothing? Men and women move in together and live together without the benefit of marriage. They are really just playing at housekeeping like little kids. The end result can be very catastrophic to one or both partners. All it takes is one fight and someone moves out. It depends on how far you went in playing house, as to how devastating this is. Do you have children together? Did you buy a house together? Did you invest together? Did one person pay all the bills and now resents the "wasted" money? These are just some of the complications of playing house. Of course, there are complications to spouses going through a divorce too. But marriage makes it a little harder to get out of and therefore a majority of people will at least think twice before divorce and give a little more effort to keep from dissolving a marriage. Whereas someone who is playing house can up and move out over a little rift or tiff. My advice is to think long and hard about sex and marriage (or not marrying). There are a lot of complications that people ignore and it comes home to roost at the end of the day.

To get back to my point, men and women today don't seem to think anything about having sex with almost total strangers or sex with no strings attached. Sometimes a woman doesn't have to use any artifices to get a man to have sex with her and vice versa. There is no mystery, seduction, flirting, romance... it's just straight to the sex. But this verse is saying people who practise promiscuity and sex outside of marriage are on a bad path leading nowhere.

The advice here is to "consider" or "ponder" her path. That word means to roll flat, to revolve, to weigh. If you have a rolled up map, you would have to unroll it in order to study the map.

You need to roll out the map of your life and see where you want to be, what kind of person you want to be, who you want in your life. I'm not saying that we can plan everything about our life. Some people try to. But God is the only one that knows the whole plan of our life. But what I mean is what kind of person you want to be and who you want with you in your end days, if you grow old. Do you want to be alone? Do you want to marry someone who may, or may not, be faithful? Do you want someone to share your life or someone just for temporary kicks? Are you looking in the right places for quality spouses? Are you treating people as you would want to be treated? If you want someone to be faithful to you, you have to be faithful to them. If you want someone to be honest and dependable, you have to be honest and dependable. If you want someone who has good character and integrity, you must be that kind of person. And you must treat others with respect and honor and not like a piece of trash you use and throw away! Otherwise, you may find yourself being used and thrown away one day.

Who do you want to be the mother of your children (or the father of your children)? Are you a good example of a man or woman? Would someone point to you and say, "There is a good catch." Not because you are handsome and wear nice clothes but because you are a good person.

God knows what He is talking about when He counsels us to keep sex within a marriage. His commands are not capricious and malicious but loving and kind. He is kind to warn us. He is loving to warn us. He is trying to save you trouble and heartache.

  • Have you ever used artifices to attract someone? Was it fake or real (fake eyelashes or real ones, fake smile or real smile, fake line or real conversation)? Why would you use fake? Did you go overboard and end up in trouble?
  • Have you ever mistreated a girlfriend (or boyfriend)? Did someone come to your mind? Did you use someone and now you know it was wrong? God loves you and He loves them, He will forgive. If you repent, just ask for His forgiveness right now.
  • Have you ever rolled out a plan for the kind of person you want to be and the kind of person you want to be with when you begin to grow old? Maybe now is a good time to think about it. I'm not talking about hair color, weight, clothes... those are all temporary and will change as we age. You will age too. But the kind of personality traits you value, in yourself and in your spouse.

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