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Monday, March 06, 2017

We Are In Our New Home

Stan and I made a major life change since the new year. One of the local cotton mills has been converted to upscale loft apartments. I've been very happy in our big house. It was our dream home and I thought it would do us until the end. But it has been harder and harder to keep up with as we've aged. Taking care of, cleaning, maintaining a large home and our yard was taking it's toll.

It occurred to us that we could downsize. When we began thinking of it, we didn't really want another smaller house. Because that means you still have a mortgage, maintenance/repairs and yard work. We didn't want a condominium because you still have indoor maintenance and then we've seen a family member taken advantage of with high regime fees going to management who used the money for their own ends and let the condos fall into disrepair. So we thought a high-end rental would make sense. They would want to keep things in good repair to keep good renters. The loft apartments provide all appliances, a pool, grilling and dining al fresco, a gym and a dog park along with extensive walking trails. So we began to get excited and made the drastic decision to go for it! We don't want to be house poor (all our assets tied up in a house). At this stage in life, we want to be more mobile and liquid with less responsibilities.

We took a 3 bedroom apartment and then began downsizing in earnest. We had a huge yard sale and gave away truckloads to family and charity. We managed to go from an approximately 3,000 sq foot home to a 1,673 sq foot apartment. It was good but it was heart wrenching.

We had so many memories in our former home. But we also had so many memories in the THINGS in our home. What do you keep and what can you let go of? I had to be realistic and firm. I just didn't have room for everything. Don't get me wrong, we aren't hoarders, but we had so many things to deal with.

I'm a good housekeeper and organizer and we had a large house with tons of storage. So going through every drawer, closet, the attic, the cabinets, etc. was hard. Every time you touch something you are flooded with memories but you know you have to keep going and you have to deal with it by making a decision whether to keep it or get rid of it. If you keep it, where will you store it? If you are ready to let go of it, do you pass it on to a family member, a charity, or toss in the trash?

It STRETCHED my decluttering and organizing skills to the maximum and it STRESSED my genealogy and scrapbooking side to the max. For instance, what to do with my genealogy books? My books in general (I'm a big reader)? I decided to take my genealogy books and donate them to my local library's genealogy room so I could still access them but I don't have to take care of them. My regular books... I made a decision. I would keep my Bibles and devotionals but get rid of EVERY other book in my home. I can go strictly digital and use the library for hard backs. So I boxed all my books up and had them at the yard sale. What was left were donated to the Friends of the Library. I have my Bibles and devotionals in one small book case.

Then there were my scrapbooks. I had a full closet from top to bottom with my scrapbooks back when I did paper scrapbooks. I have, since, moved to digital scrapbooks. But what to do with all my old ones. I went through them and pulled together books that could be given to family members. That got rid of about a dozen books. The rest I organized into plastic boxes, clearly marked. They were worth keeping.

I had about a dozen different sets of china that I loved but it had become a pain to keep them all clean and sparkling. I carefully wrapped some of the sets up, put in plastic boxes and gave to family members because they were from my Grandmothers. I feel like they are being passed down to the next generation. But the rest were donated to charity. It feels good to know that I don't have to wash 4 huge china cabinets full of china, crystal, and silver every year during spring cleaning time. But it was wrenching to let them go too. I kept my silver baby cups but let go of the rest. No more silver polishing for me.
Just one of 4 china cabinets full of china and silver.

Anyway, as you can see, it was very hard. Hard work and emotionally hard. But it's freeing. I think my husband had a harder time than I did. But we kept telling ourselves that we are simplifying our life and think of the time, effort, money and worry we will save not having to keep up all the stuff,  the house and yard! We almost called it off a couple of times but we pressed on.

Three weeks ago we actually moved into the new apartment. The hardest part to get used to is the small bedrooms. We feel a little cramped but I keep telling myself that means less to dust, less to vacuum, less to mop, etc. Once I got my TV up and my rolling computer desk and computer equipment set up, I was OK. Being disabled, I stay in bed a lot and use my adjustable bed and rolling computer desk for hours. I don't need much room for that anyway.








After we got moved in we were able to get unpacked and set up and now are comfortable. But, of course, meanwhile, we also had to do minor repairs and clean the old house to get it on the market. I was the one doing the packing and yard sale. We were both doing the move on the big day. But my husband was more involved in getting the old house ready for market. I did some cleaning and painting but my job continued at our new home with unpacking and putting away. Considering we made the decision to move, got moved and now have the house in shape and on the market, all since the last week in January... we did pretty doggone good! But it was a very hard month.

We couldn't have done it just by ourselves. Our family chipped in all along the way and our friends, Randall and Mary, went above and beyond! We can't thank them enough. From Elaine and Hannah holding my hands as I plowed through boxes of memories, helping me tag with prices and getting ready for the yard sale, to Mike, Melinda, Mom, Dad, Elaine, Randall and Mary helping us during the yard sale! Did I mention a yard sale like this was like an estate sale while you're still alive?!? Those items that strangers were pawing through are MY MEMORIES! And they wanted them for a quarter or a dollar and I had to be willing to let them go for a quarter or a dollar. Then there were all the men in our family doing the heavy lifting on moving day! And Elaine and I were pushing carts of boxes from the parking lot to the elevator and up to our new 3rd floor apartment ALL DAY LONG! And the prayers and support from all our friends and family! Randall and Mary helped us do the repairs and clean up the old house. They do such a fantastic and meticulous job on everything they do. I truly could not do it better myself (and I mean that!). We paid them for that work but not nearly enough. They wouldn't take more. What they did was more a ministry to us. And Ronnie helped us just last week by doing a couple of things that we hadn't had time to get to. It was such a help because we had to get the house on the market. You can only make two payments for so long. Anyway, it comes down to everyone helping in the ways they could whether it was a prayer or painting or packing a box or helping in so many other ways and we appreciated all of them.

One last thought. Because of HGTV and so many home shows, it seems people expect homes to be staged and to look as generic as a hotel lobby. This is totally unrealistic. First, 95% of us aren't professional decorators. Second, we have limited budgets and cannot afford all new matchy-matchy furniture and accessories. Third, we live in our homes, they aren't stage dressing so to expect to tour someone's home and not see a toothbrush in the toothbrush holder, or a picture of Grandma on the wall or a shampoo bottle in the shower is unrealistic.

A house should be clean, decluttered, in good order and everything working.

But to expect a homeowner to repaint the entire house in neutral gray (it used to be neutral beige), purchase new furniture/window treatments and rent a pod (or storage unit) to put all personal items,,, is going too far. Our house is painted in acceptable colors, nothing too daring or too way out. But one realtor told us to repaint the entire inside a neutral gray and white and to remove all wallpaper. Do you know how much that would have cost us? And it would have meant the house wasn't ready for market for months and yet we weren't going to get any higher price?!? We have a brand new HVAC system, including ductwork just 8 mos ago. New roof, new windows, new floor coverings, all granite countertops, enclosed the garage to make an inlaw suite with 2nd kitchen. We've moved out, so there is no furniture or personal items. It's extra clean and all repairs up to date, the yard is immaculate. But none of this was good enough. That realtor wanted us to spend an additional $10,000 and a couple of months work, to paint it neutral gray.

I'm not mad at the realtors. They learn this stuff from real estate 101. It's because the buyers watch HGTV and expect every house to look like the Property Brothers just finished it and staged it for them. Or that it's going to look like the Flip or Flop couple just walked out the back door as they walked in the front door.

Come on people, get a grip. Those are TV shows and real life isn't that perfect and can't be. Besides, how do I know what color Family A expects my living room to be versus Family B or Family C? Family A may think gray is too cold and would prefer a warm tan and Family C might prefer a clean white! I can't possibly anticipate every taste of every possible buyer. But each buyer can use their own imagination and try to see the house in a color they want to paint it IF THEY BUY IT! As long as it's my house, it will be painted what I like. But once you buy it, it's yours and you can paint it any color you like. You can overlook my furniture and imagine it with your own furniture. But, while it's my house and I'm living in it, it will have my furniture in it.

Of course, there are commonsense limits. If you have wall to wall furniture or such big pieces that it makes your room abnormally small, then you may need to make adjustments. If you've painted a room a vivid purple, then you need to expect that most people wouldn't like your choice and maybe that room needs to be painted. Those are commonsense things that homeowners need to be aware of.

But commonsense goes both ways. Buyers need to use commonsense and imagination to see beyond the current owner's furniture or paint colors. Look at the bones, at the location, at your budget and at the level of skill sets available to you and see if this home can become what you want. If not, move on to the next house. But don't have unrealistic expectations based on TV shows.

Another point to think of is how much is real and how much may cover up something. Let's say the homeowner is told by their real estate agent to paint the rooms. Do you really think the homeowner is going to spend money on the best paint? Why would they, when they aren't going to be living there? You will probably get cheap paint and maybe a sub par job just so it will be "neutral". What if a realtor tells a homeowner to take down an old light fixture because it "dates" the house? More than likely the homeowner will buy a cheap replacement light fixture and call the cheapest electrician to install it. Is it done right? It may look pretty for a little while but those cheap box store fixtures come from China!

My point is, a buyer expects it all to look perfect but how does the buyer know if it's just cheap lipstick and rouge? A buyer is relying on a homeowner who is ready to sell the property. As a buyer, I'd rather do most repairs and remodeling myself. That way I can choose the best paint, choose my own contractors, make my own decisions. I'd rather be in control of what happens to the home I'm going to be living in so it would be done to my specifications and my satisfaction.

So, I say, again, use your imagination, don't have unrealistic expectations. There are some things that are non-negotiable. Concentrate on them. Such as price, location, quality of build, size of the lot, square footage, how the rooms are arranged. Don't look at a two story house if you need one story living. Don't look at a house on the west side when you work on the east side. Don't look at a house that is 1,500 square feet when you need at least 2,300 square feet. But if the house is in the right location, has the right size lot, has the right square footage, has the right number of bedrooms and bathrooms, then look at it as a good-bones house and use your imagination to see if it can be made into what you want and need, within your budget. Decide if you have the budget, the time and available skill sets to do it. By "available skill sets", I mean can you, or someone you trust and know, do what is needed? Do you have access and knowledge of contractors that are trustworthy and professional? Do you know of family members that are good at certain skills? Or maybe a friend that you can trust to do it or give you good advice? These are resources and skill sets available to you. If I didn't have access to trustworthy skill sets to do a quality job, then my decisions would have to be very different.

Do I make sense? I know I'm going on and on but I'm in the middle of this and I'm seeing it from all sides. Be a wise homeowner and use commonsense. Be a wise seller and use commonsense and keep all things in proper perspective. Be a wise buyer and use commonsense and imagination as you look.

Above all, if you are a Christian (a true believer in Jesus Christ), whatever your dealings, do so with honesty and a commitment to do the right thing. In our case, with selling the house, we decided not to repaint the house in neutral gray. Our paint, inside and out, was done with the best paint we could afford and to the best of our ability when we still thought the house was going to be ours until our death. We decided that the colors are fine and it wouldn't be right to buy cheap paint and slap and dash it on the walls just so it would look "neutral". It's not fair to us to go to that trouble and expense and it's not fair to the buyer to get a poor paint job done with cheap paint. It's clean and in excellent shape. We made sure any chips and scrapes were touched up with the same paint we painted it with originally. I made sure to clean and wipe down all the closets and cabinets and under every appliance. We swept up the attic after we emptied it. The floors are gleaming and the cabinets have been scrubbed and oiled until they also gleam. The windows are sparkling and the appliances and light fixtures are clean. No dust on the fan blades, the chandelier is polished, etc. We've done our best by our house and whoever gets it will be getting a good deal. We can sleep at nights knowing the buyer of our house is getting the best we could have done. And while we are renting our apartment, we will keep it to the best of our ability and leave it in as good a shape as we can. And if we buy a house, we will use commonsense as we look and be aboveboard in our dealings. We trust the Lord to guide our decisions and lead us to the right place, not in the machinations of a realtor, flipper, a clever decorator/stager, or TV show.

Saturday, January 28, 2017

We Are Moving!

I'm going to have to take a little break from blogging as we move. Yes, my husband and I have decided to downsize big time. We are moving from our 3,000 sq ft house to a 3 bedroom apartment in an old cotton mill. We are working hard divesting, organizing, packing, and arranging for the mother of all yard sales.

Once we get settled, I will be back. Thank you for your patience.

Monday, January 16, 2017

National Society Daughters Of The Revolution Kate Barry Chapter, Spartanburg, SC


Objectives: Historic Preservation, Education, Patriotism
Motto: God, Home, and Country

What is the Daughters of the American Revolution? The Daughters of the American Revolution is a nonprofit, nonpolitical women’s volunteer service organization. We are the largest female lineage society in the country. Our common bond is our direct descent from Patriots of the American Revolution — any woman, regardless of race, religion or ethnic background, who can prove this lineage, is eligible to join.

The National Society Daughters of the American Revolution was founded on October 11, 1890 as a lineage-based membership service organization for women. (There is a Sons of the American Revolution - SAR, and a Children of the American Revolution - CAR.) The first DAR chapter was organized on October 11, 1890, at the Strathmore Arms, the home of Mary Smith Lockwood, one of the DAR's four co-founders. Other founders were Eugenia Washington, a great-grandniece of George Washington, Ellen Hardin Walworth, and Mary Desha. The First Lady, Caroline Lavina Scott Harrison, wife of President Benjamin Harrison, lent her prestige to the founding of DAR, and served as its first President General. Having initiated a renovation of the White House, she was interested in historic preservation. She helped establish the goals of DAR, which was incorporated by congressional charter in 1896. The DAR chapters raised funds to initiate a number of historic preservation and patriotic endeavors. They began a practice of installing markers at the graves of Revolutionary War veterans to indicate their service, and adding small flags at their gravesites on Memorial Day. Other activities included commissioning and installing monuments to battles and other sites related to the War.
Here is a memorial monument installed by the DAR at King's Mountain, NC where the great American Revolutionary Battle of King's Mountain was fought. I have visited there several times and I took this picture.

The DAR recognized women patriots' contributions as well as those of soldiers. Our chapter is named after a local Patriot woman named Kate Barry from Walnut Grove. She helped her husband and father during the war and also was a scout and messenger for General Daniel Morgan.
NSDAR Memorial Pioneer Mothers In The Covered Wagon Days

In addition to installing markers and monuments, DAR chapters have purchased, preserved and operated historic houses and other sites associated with the war.
SCDAR Old Exchange and Provost, 122 East Bay Street, Charleston, SC

Since then more than 950,000 women have been members. Currently we have about 185,000 members in 3,000 chapters throughout the nation and some in foreign countries.

Education, especially education in American History, is very important to the DAR. They offer scholarships on National and State levels and some local chapters also provide scholarships. It's worth it to look into DAR scholarships for your daughters who are approaching college.

The DAR supports two schools in the Appalachian region:

Tamassee DAR School is a private 501c3 non-profit children’s home and family service organization offering multi-faceted programs to serve children and families with a variety of needs. Our programs and services include seven child care homes that serve up to 8 – 10 residential children, a Middle School Academy program, an After Care Program for reunified families and students enrolled in college or living independently, and a Day Care Program serving infants, toddlers and after school children in the community. Tamassee DAR School was founded by the South Carolina State Society DAR and is located in Pickens County, SC. It was accepted as a National Project by the National Society DAR in 1921. Since that time, thousands of children have received a loving home, an excellent education and the love of a professional caring staff. Being so close to our chapter, this school is a focus in our chapter.

Kate Duncan Smith (KDS), founded on Gunter Mountain by the Alabama DAR in 1924, is a day school, kindergarten through 12th grade, serving an area of 100 square miles. Enrollment averages 1,300 students yearly. Special emphasis is placed on responsible citizenship, academic achievement, and horticultural and computer skills. Preparation for college and vocational training are important parts of the curriculum.

There are also DAR approved schools that receive support from the NSDAR:
Crossnore's School
Berry College
Hillside School, Inc.
Hindman Settlement School
and 2 schools that educate Native American children: Bacone College and Chimawa Indian School

I've been a member of the National Societies of the Daughters of the American Revolution since 2002.

Here I was being inducted into the Abraham Kuykendall Chapter in Hendersonville, NC. I received my certificate that evening. I joined that one because it was the closest to where I lived in Tryon, NC at the time.

When we moved back to Spartanburg, SC, I transferred to the Kate Barry Chapter. I've been a member since 2006 in my current chapter.

It had been a goal of mine to get the evidence I needed to be able to join the DAR and I did it! In order to be considered you have to be able to prove that you are directly descended from an American Patriot who fought for, or otherwise aided, the American cause during the American Revolution.

Each chapter has a Registrar. The Registrar can lead you and help you in finding proof and filling out the forms. The requirements are very exacting and filling everything out correctly on their forms is important. The Registrar can guide you. The fee for application is $75 but you add an additional $40 for a chapter fee so it's $115. Our chapter ByLaws will shadow the National and State ByLaws. In those ByLaws will be the criteria for becoming a member usually including visiting the chapter so many times so the members can meet you and then being voted in and finally getting your paperwork done and submitted.

Start by making a family tree using a pedigree form. You will need to know dates and places for birth, marriage, death. You will need to have evidence for this person, the relationship, and the dates.



In this 6 generation chart I show the line that I followed for my original Patriot Ancestor. Green Hill Reese was the great grandson of the Patriot in my line. I would have needed a 9 generation chart to follow back 3 more generations but you get the idea. If you are lucky, then someone else has proven, and their evidence accepted for, someone in your line. If that is true, then you only have to prove your relationship back to that common ancestor. For instance, let's say that I have a cousin with the common ancestor of Bailey Bright Reese (my great grandfather). He is in her direct line, just like he is in mine. Since all my evidence has been approved by the NSDAR all the way back to Travis Rees, then she only needs to prove her relationship back to Bailey Bright Reese and then use my National DAR member number for the rest! In my case I had to prove all the way back to Green Hill Reese's father, William Rees. I found a DAR member who had directly descended from Green Hill Reese but through another child. She had proven all the way back to Travis Rees. So all I had to do was prove my relationship back to Green Hill Reese and then I used her NSDAR member number for the last 3 generations to Travis Rees. (She also had two other Patriots I was able to add. So I have my original ancestor, Travis Rees, but I also have added two "supplemental" ancestors. She had saved me some research. I even got to meet her personally, which is rare, and thank her.)

Once you've filled out your pedigree sheet back to a qualifying ancestor, start collecting hard copy evidence. For instance, birth/death/marriage certificates (including yours and your parents), census records, land records, will records,,, whatever you need to prove each person existed and proof of their relationship, as well as, their dates of birth/marriage/death.

Do what you can. When you've got to a stopping place, it's time to contact a chapter and seek out the Registrar. You can locate the chapter nearest to you on the NSDAR website. Most of the chapters will have their own chapter website. But National also has a Membership Interest Form you can submit online (or print and mail) and National will get the information to the chapter. Believe me, every chapter is eager for new members. Once you initiate contact, they will do their best to help you. If, for some reason, you don't hear back, keep trying.

There is the National Society of the DAR. It is generally a conservative group but we are non-political. There is an annual membership fee for National. It will be added to your annual membership dues.*

The NSDAR has a whole block in Washington, D.C. just a block away from the White House. The formidable building was built in 1929 and was made an historical landmark in 1985. The block includes three adjoining buildings, two of which are Registered National Landmarks: DAR Memorial Continental Hall (built 1905), DAR Constitution Hall (built 1929), and the Administration Building (built 1920, 1950). The buildings include a genealogical library for research, records storage, staff offices, DAR museum and an auditorium where they host the annual NSDAR Continental Congress. The concert hall can seat 3,700 people.

The annual Continental Congress is a convention. National, State and Chapter DAR leaders meet at the DAR National Headquarters for a week during the summer to report on the year’s work, honor outstanding award recipients, plan future initiatives and network. Those in attendance include over 3,000 delegates representing the Daughters from all 50 states, the District of Columbia, and many international chapters. The week-long convention consists of business sessions, committee meetings, social functions, and is topped off with formal evening ceremonies: Opening Night, Education Awards Night and National Defense Night. These evening ceremonies, held in the historic DAR Constitution Hall, mix pomp and circumstance with touching award presentations, special speakers and musical entertainment. There are traditions and protocol to follow. The appropriate dress for the evening events is formal and the ladies wear white gloves. White gloves are worn by members at formal DAR events. (But if you happen to be without white gloves, you are still welcome.) This year's Continental Congress was the week of July 4th and it was the 125th anniversary of the Continental Congress so it was something special. I wish I could have gone this year.

The National level officers are:

President General - She is elected to the highest office of the Society by the DAR Continental Congress. The President General serves as the Chief Executive Officer of the National Society and holds one three-year term in office. Each President General carries forward her vision and goals for the National Society while managing and overseeing Society policy as well as initiating special National projects.

And eleven executive officers:
First Vice President General
Chaplain General
Recording Secretary General
Corresponding Secretary General
Organizing Secretary General
Treasurer General
Registrar General
Historian General
Librarian General
Curator General
Reporter General

A National Board of Management, a body composed of the Executive Officers, 21 Vice Presidents General, and 53 State Regents, set policies.

Our current President General is Ann Dillon. The goal of the President General’s Project for the Dillon Administration is to continue moving forward in commitment to promote the DAR as we volunteer in our communities and in our nation. The concerns she is addressing during her tenure are:

  • Restoring and improving the NSDAR complex of historic buildings
  • Supporting chapters through membership and community service promotions
  • Advancing technological and financial accounting capabilities that serve to reinforce the Society’s promotion of history, education and patriotism
  • Designing tools and techniques to increase public recognition of DAR’s service and contributions to the Nation including, but not limited to, funding Special Projects Grants
  • Furthering the financial stability of the Society through the promotion of established development programs and prudent investment strategies
  • Moving forward in service to God, Home and Country, we renew our commitment to promote the founders’ vision through education, historic preservation and patriotism.


After the National level, each state has a state level DAR organization. Our South Carolina NSDAR is based in the state's capitol, Columbia, S.C. We have bi-annual conventions called the Spring Conference and Fall Forum. These events include evening banquets, committee meetings, meetings, voting, addressing issues, networking, fundraising, and leadership seminars. Each SC chapter sends delegates to these events. There is an annual state membership fee which will be added to your annual membership dues. *

Our SC DAR Executive Officers are:

State Regent
State Vice Regent
State Chaplain
State Recording Secretary
State Corresponding Secretary
State Organizing Secretary
State Treasurer
State Assistant Treasurer
State Registrar
State Historian
State Librarian
State Curator
State Director District I
State Director District II
State Director District III
State Director District IV
State Director District V
State Director District VI
State Parliamentarian

When I was new in the DAR, I had the opportunity and privilege of attending a Continental Congress in Washington, D.C. I've also been able to attend a Spring Conference in Columbia, SC just last year. I plan on going again this year. The dress is less formal. I would say something appropriate for church or going out nice although there will be some in evening wear with white gloves.

The State Regent right now (2015-2018) is Diane Taylor Culbertson. South Carolina NSDAR was founded on 10/11/1890. In February of 1892, the National Society appointed Rebecca Pickens (Mrs. John E.) Bacon as State Regent of South Carolina. At the same time, Mrs. Bacon appointed Malvina Sarah (Mrs. Clark) Waring as Regent of Chapters. She successfully organized two chapters in 1894 and was confirmed as State Regent of the South Carolina State Society in 1898. By the end of her term, the SCDAR had 10 active chapters. We have 71 chapters and over 4,500 members today. We also are proud to have the Tamassee DAR School in our state which was organized in 1919.

South Carolina Daughters participate in naturalization ceremonies, flag presentation and flag programs, literacy programs, school events with Junior American Citizen clubs and contests, and give ROTC DAR Good Citizens and Good Citizenship Medals. They plant trees, shrubs and flowers for the environment. They recycle. They conduct American History Contests and give American History Teacher Awards. They give scholarships. They place historical markers honoring people, buildings, and sites which remind us of our ancestors who fought for the freedoms we now enjoy.

South Carolina Period Room in the NSDAR Headquarters in Washington DC depicts an early nineteenth century bed chamber with its summer textile covering. The SCDAR are custodians of the Battleship South Carolina silver service. The battleship, The U.S.S. South Carolina, was christened on July 12, 1908. On board was a sixty-six piece silver service with each piece being a work of art, in that it depicted the fruit, flowers and foliage native to our State. The General Assembly allocated $5,000 to purchase this Silver in 1907. We were given custody of the service in 1921.

The competition between states within the DAR is what keeps projects going. Whether it be fundraising, the number of hours served, or who spearheads a successful project, competition drives the chapters. The projects are all worthy in historical value or in human value. After all we are not only a genealogy society but a service society as well. I am not a competitive person so it seems a little silly sometimes to compete over who raises the most money for the President General's latest project. But I realize that the projects are good projects and I'm glad they are able to raise the money, the concern and the volunteers to do whatever projects the DAR works on. You just have to realize you are dealing with human beings and so there is always some measure of competition, one-ups-manship, petty politics, pride and ego involved. But when you look at the bigger picture, all the projects are worth supporting. So I overlook that sort of stuff and keep myself out of it.

Another thing that plays into the competition are the "points". Your chapter is always looking for ways to add "points" each year to their chapter's totals. The goal is to at least have the same number of points as past years but you really want to do better each year. You gain recognition as you maneuver your chapter into higher levels based on the point system. Each individual member can contribute points by filling out a service questionnaire. You get points for flying an American flag at your home; for participating in any history related activities, re-enactments, history fairs, commemorative events. If you recycle, if you volunteer to help veterans, if you subscribe to the NSDAR history magazine, etc. you get points. Your chapter also can do things that add points. If they have special speakers on history, the Revolution, Women's Issues, Veteran's Issues, etc you get points. Last Fall our chapter had a picnic at a local American Revolutionary battlefield called Musgrove Mills. They were having their Patriot's in Petticoats day so we actually doubled our points by going to Musgrove Mills and taking advantage of it being an historical event and it being a women's historical event! So, as you visit a chapter, don't be surprised to hear them talk about "points". As you rack up points, you and your chapter get certificates of recognition and awards, etc. A Chapter Regent doesn't want to be the Regent that let the chapter lose points and slip to a lower level on the point system. Also, there is some competition between chapters and current Regents versus former Regents. I've never seen this personally as our ladies don't lose their perspectives. But I've heard of it.



After the state level, you have districts. And within the districts, you have your local chapters. Our chapter is the NSDAR Kate Barry Chapter. The Kate Barry Chapter was organized October 1, 1901. Margaret Catherine "Kate" Moore was born in 1752 to the Moores who built the Walnut Grove Plantation in Moore, SC. She married Andrew Barry in 1767 at the age of fifteen. The two settled in Spartanburg County across the Tyger River, about two miles from Walnut Grove. Kate Barry was an excellent horsewoman, and she was very familiar with the wilderness and Indian trails around her plantation, Walnut Grove Plantation.


When the Revolutionary War broke out in 1776, Kate volunteered for the cause as a scout for patriot bands in the area. Her scouting operations were carried out mostly in the portion of Spartanburg County drained by the three Tyger Rivers. Her husband, Andrew, her brother, Thomas Moore, and several brothers-in-law were members of the patriot forces. It was not unusual for Kate to mount her horse, ride to the patriots' encampment, and warn her husband and the troops of impending danger. In the winter of 1781, Kate acted as a voluntary scout for Daniel Morgan, and she gathered patriot bands to send on to him. Her husband, Andrew, was a soldier under the command of General Pickens in the victorious Battle of Cowpens. For her efforts to increase the number of American patriots at the Battle of Cowpens, Kate Barry earned her reputation as the Heroine of the Battle of Cowpens.


Our chapter officers are:

Chapter Regent
Vice Regent
Recording Secretary
Corresponding Secretary/Chaplain
Treasurer
Registrar
Historian
Librarian
Parliamentarian

Our current Chapter Regent is Barbara VanDahm (2016-2019). We have about 50 members. Our chapter meets for luncheons once a month. We try to support the Tamassee DAR School, active servicemen/women, military veterans and helping to forward American History in our classrooms. Our chapter gave a $700 scholarship to one of Tamassee's deserving young ladies last year.

I'm very proud and happy to be a member of the Kate Barry Chapter and I call these ladies my friends.

There is an annual membership fee for the chapter. *

* This amount is decided and voted on by the membership. State dues are decided on during the conventions on the state level. National dues are decided and voted on in the annual Continental Congress on the national level. Let's say that National dues are $30/year, State dues are $10/year and chapter dues are $40/year. You would write a check for $80/year to your chapter and the Chapter Treasurer would send the National and State their part of the dues. You must pay these dues on time and have them into National and State on time. Even if you decide you no longer want to be a member, don't just quit paying your dues and showing up at the meetings! Write a formal letter to your Chapter Regent and copy to the Chapter Registrar stating that you are resigning. Without that letter, you won't be considered as leaving in "good standing" with the Chapter. Later, if you want to come back, you would be welcomed back but you would have to pay an extra small fee for getting "back into good standing". So if you decide to resign, write that letter. That will keep your name in good standing and will save you that extra fee if you want to join up again.

If you are a Daughter in good standing* with your chapter at the time of your death, your family can add the National Emblem to your gravestone. When I joined the DAR, I got my Mother and Sisters to join too and my Mother was really excited to be a part. But she has Alzheimer's Disease now so she can't attend and doesn't remember it. If I had not kept her membership up and paid her dues for her I wouldn't be able to get a marker on her gravestone. I could have written the above mentioned letter of resignation on her behalf but I just pay her dues so we can get her a marker when the time comes. But make sure your family knows this stuff because too many times, in a situation like this, the spouse or children just quit paying the dues and don't realize how it affects their mother's membership. Many of our members joined because their mothers and grandmothers were members and they, themselves, have now been a member for 50 years! Having that marker on their gravestone really stands for something and it would be too bad if, in their decline, they stopped paying the dues.






What is a typical chapter meeting like?

We begin by calling the meeting to order and going through our ritual. Every chapter does this ritual. We stand and recite the Pledge of Allegiance and the pledge to our state flags. We recite the American's Creed and some may recite the Preamble to the Constitution as well. The Chaplain will have a reading with member response and then repeat the DAR prayer.

Different members are assigned to do a Flag Minute, Native American Minute, National Defense Minute, Constitution Minute and American History Minute. This is where we read a blurb that has something to do with those subjects. Someone also reads the President General's monthly letter to the Daughters.

When addressing the Chapter Regent, we should use our good manners and call her Madame Regent. As a group, members are referred to as Daughters.

Someone will introduce our special speaker and they have about 30 mins to do their presentation. A thank you gift or notice of a donation in their honor will be presented. Then we eat our lunch (or dinner, depending on whether you attend a morning group or an evening group).

After eating we will discuss business and have reports from the officers. This is the time when we do discussion, voting, deciding on policies, making plans, etc. As the meeting winds down, we adjourn.



When you become a member of the NSDAR, you are allowed to wear THE PINS. It is not necessary for anyone to buy and wear pins but I'm very proud of my pins. I guess it's my way of showing off my hard work to be a member and to be active in membership. But it's not a necessity to being a member. In my chapters, I've never seen women be snobbish about their pins.

If you are a member you can at least get the National emblem, the chapter bar and your ancestor bar(s) on a ribbon. You order these pins and ribbons from Hamilton Insignia. The National emblem is a charm that hangs off the bottom of the ribbon. The chapter ribbon has the name of your DAR chapter and is pinned on the ribbon. The ancestor bars have your Patriot's name etched on it and is pinned to the ribbon.
An example of your basic pins and ribbon.

I guess the pins would be synonymous with Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts getting pins for their sashes. The longer I'm in the DAR, the more I treasure the pins. It represents the hard work you did to prove your ancestry, as well as, the hard work you do within your chapter (or state or national). I have a chapter bar, 3 ancestor bars, states bars (NC and SC where my ancestors served), an officers bar (I've been our chapter's secretary for quite a few years now) and my National emblem.


Here is a picture of me wearing my pins last spring at the Spring Conference. Sorry, I look a little grim. I find it particularly hard to take a selfie and always look like I'm concentrating too hard (which I am, do you know how difficult it is to take a selfie with a full size Nikon?).


In order to get a pin, you have to prove you are eligible for it. I can't just order any old DAR pin from Hamilton Insignia. I have to prove I am a member, that those are my proven ancestors, that I really have been an officer in my chapter, that I really belong to that chapter, etc. And the pins are not cheap. Mine are all gold filled pins and you are still looking at probably about $700 in pins. You can also purchase them in 14kt gold and I'm guessing it would be several thousand dollars for a strip like mine. But my little ribbon of pins is NOTHING compared to some of the women who have been active a lot more than I have and for a lot longer. They have dozens of proven ancestors and held multiple offices. They can be wearing a chest full of pins!



The national emblem is hanging from the lower right corner. I think I counted 17 Patriot ancestor bars, 2 chapter bars, an officers pin and then a bunch more.

Hee hee! I have Pin-envy! I could stop a bullet with a chest full of pins like that! But each one represents money and hard work. You don't get a pin lightly and they aren't cheap to buy.

What kind of pins can you get besides the Basic Insignia, Chapter bar, Ancestor bar?  Pins by State (or overseas), National Level, State Level, Commemorative Events, Donations, President General Project, School Board, Social Clubs (like the Cameo Club which is made up of DAR members who are mother/daughter pairs), Volunteer Service Pins, and pins for Years of Service. There is a protocol for how you place the pins on the ribbons and how you wear the ribbons and pins.


In summary, the DAR provides the opportunity to…

  • contribute to important service projects
  • honor and preserve the legacy of Patriot ancestors
  • make lifelong friends
  • participate in unique social and service-oriented programs within your community
  • discover programs that appeal to your interests
  • gain valuable leadership experience
  • establish a network of contacts in your community and around the world


Well, I've covered about all you need to know to get started in the National Society of the Daughters of the American Revolution. If you are interested in history, genealogy, service projects that help veterans, active servicemen(women), education, historical preservation... then you've come to the right place.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Charles Walter Crum and Jessie Lou Brown


I came across another tragic story. I just had document it. Charles Walter Crum is very distantly related to me as my 3rd cousin 2 times removed. Our common ancestor is Nathan Marmaduke Lamb and Orpha Rollins.

Nathan Marmaduke Lamb (DOB 1/1/1791 in Randolph County, NC; DOD Abt 1856 in Greene County, TN) married Orpha Rollins (DOB Abt 1793 in Randolph County, NC; DOD After 1860 in Greene County, TN). They had my direct ancestor, John Rollins Lamb and, his sister, Charlotte Elizabeth Lamb. Charles Walter Crum is descended from Charlotte Elizabeth Lamb.

Charlotte Elizabeth Lamb (DOB 4/18/1824 in Greeneville, Greene County, TN; DOD 4/19/1881 in Greeneville, Greene County, TN) married Elijah John Ricker (DOB 11/18/1829 in Greeneville, Greene County, TN; DOD 11/20/1876 in Limestone Springs, Greene County, TN). They had Frederick Knighton Ricker, Charlotte Caroline Ricker, John L. Ricker, Uriah M. Ricker, Salina Malinda Jane Ricker, Eliza Elvira Emaline Ricker, Sarah Frances Ricker, Hamilton Ricker.

Frederick Knighton Ricker (DOB 5/11/1854 in Greene County, TN; DOD 10/16/1911 in Greene County, TN) married Mary S. Mickels (DOB 11/26/1848 in Greene County, TN; DOD 2/5/1922 in Greene County, TN). They had Jonathon B.M. Ricker, Elijah Milton Ricker, Maggie Ricker, Robert Taylor Ricker, Frederick N. Ricker, John Henry Ricker, Jennie Ricker, James Mort Ricker.

Jennie Ricker (DOB 3/27/1888 in TN; DOD 11/26/1970 in Orange County, NC) married William Walter Crum (DOB 10/28/1891 in TN; DOD 2/1/1953 in Knoxville, Knox County, TN). They had one son, Charles Walter Crum, the subject of this story.

Charles Walter Crum was born 7/26/1920 in Greene County, TN.


1930 U.S. Census of Newport Road, District 10, Greene, Tennessee; Ancestry.com, Roll: 2249; Page: 1A; Enumeration District: 0025; Image: 624.0; FHL microfilm: 2341983, Taken 4/2/1930, Lines 32-34, "Walter W. Crum"
Walter W. Crum, Head, Owns farm, M(ale), W(hite), 38 yrs old (DOB 1892), Married at age 19 yrs old (DOM 1911), Can read and write, Born in TN, Both parents born in TN, Dealer in livestock
Jennie S. Crum, Wife, F, W, 42 yrs old (DOB 1888), Married at age 24 yrs old, Can read and write, Born in TN, Both parents born in TN
Charles W. Crum, Adopted son, M, W, 8 yrs old (DOB 1922), Attends school, Born in TN, Both parents born in TN

Charles Walter Crum married Jessie Lou Brown. Jessie L. Brown was born 12/31/1921 in NC to Cyrus Leland Brown (DOB 2/18/1898 in Madison County, NC; DOD 4/11/1964 in Asheville, Buncombe County, NC) and Louella Ballard (DOB 7/22/1901 in NC; DOD 5/19/1970 in Asheville, Buncombe County, NC). They also had a 2nd daughter, Mary Nell Brown who married Gordon Bates Hux.


Asheville Citizen Times, Asheville, Buncombe County, NC, 7/31/1938, Pg 19 Jessie Brown Becomes Bride of C.W. Crum
Mr. and Mrs. Leland Brown, of 295 Shelburne road, West Asheville, have announced the marriage of their daughter Miss Jessie Lou Brown, to Charles Walter Crum, son of Mr. and Mrs. Walter Crum, formerly of Greeneville, Tenn. The marriage was solemnized Saturday, July 16, at 5:30 o'clock at Greenville, S.C. and the couple is now residing at 279 Shelburne road.
The bride received her education at Lee H. Edwards high school. Mr. Crum is affiliated with his father in business here.
The bride's mother, Mrs. Brown, entertained with a shower at her home last evening in honor of her daughter. Approximately 50 guests called during the evening. Games and contests were enjoyed and prizes were awarded. The house was effectively decorated for the occasion with cut flowers. The bride cut a wedding cake at the close of the festivities.


Charles W. Crum and Jessie Lou Brown had 2 sons:

1) Charles Dale Crum (DOB 5/15/1939 in Buncombe County, NC; DOD 10/16/2013 in Raleigh, Wake County, NC).

2) William Leland Crum (DOB 2/14/1941 in Buncombe County, NC; DOD 3/15/2011 in Buncombe County, NC).

They lived near her parents on Shelburne Road. It seems they lived near or side by side all their married lives.






1940 U.S. Census of David Drive, Asheville, Buncombe, North Carolina; Ancestry.com, Roll: T627_2878; Page: 4B; Enumeration District: 11-41, Taken 4/9/1940, Lines 75-77, "Charles W. Crum"
Charles W. Crum, Head, Rents home for $12, M(ale), W(hite), 19 yrs old (DOB 1921), Married, Attended 1 yr high school, Born in TN, Lived in the same place in 1935, Truck driver for livestock market, Income $1,000
Jessie Lou Crum, Wife, F, W, 19 yrs old (DOB 1921), Married, Attended high school 3 yrs, Born in NC, Lived in the same place in 1935
Charles D. Crum, Son, M, W, 11/12 mos old (DOB 1939), Born in NC





WWII Draft Registration Card, Serial #469, Order #T10,798, Charles Walter Crum, DOB 7/26/1920
Serial #469, Charles Walter Crum, Order #T10,798
Residence: 295 Shelburne Rd, Asheville, Buncombe County, NC
21 yrs old, DOB 7/26/1920 in Greeneville, Greene County, TN
Name and Address o Person Who Will Always Know Your Address: Mrs. C.W. Crum
Employer: Mr. J.T. Moons, Southern Railway
White, 5'11", 145 lbs, Blue Eyes, Brown Hair, Ruddy Complexion
Signed by him on 2/16/1942 in Asheville, Buncombe County, NC

Charles Crum served in World War II in the U.S. Navy.



He had worked for Southern Railway. But he had a tragic accident on the job and he lost an arm and a leg!

Asheville Citizen Times, Asheville, Buncombe County, NC, 7/29/1947, Pg 23, "Chas. W. Crum Is Injured In Rail Accident"
Charles W. Crum, 26, of 295 Shelburne Road, West Asheville, a brakeman on a Southern Railway system switch engine at the American Enka corporation plant, lost an arm and a leg shortly after 10 a.m. yesterday when run over by the engine near the Enka plant, it was reported.
He was taken to Norburn hospital where his condition was said to be serious last night.
John Hastings, a conductor on the engine, said that none of the crew members saw the accident occur but apparently Mr. Crum got his foot caught in the "frog" of a switch and was run over while performing his duties. The arm was lost above the elbow and the let at the thigh, it was reported.


C.W. Crum then had a harrowing experience being kidnapped!





Gastonia Gazette, 11/6/1947, "Hunted Convict Captured Here"
James A. Stephenson, 22, One Of Trio Which Escaped From Sanatorium Nabbed Here; Was Object off Widespread Manhunt
By Blonnie Pittman
James A. Stephenson, 22, on of the trio of convicts who escaped from the tubercular ward at Sanatorium N.C. when they overpowered a guard on October 30, was captured at a cafe on Airline avenue by two officers of the police department.
A state-wide search was underway for Stephenson, whose home is said to be in Belmont, and Ballard Martin, 23, of Newton, who is still at large. Their other companion in the escape, Odell Holder, surrendered himself to authorities in Greensboro earlier in the week.
Since Their escape from the sanatorium the three have committed four crimes-kidnaped and robbed a white cab driver, a Negro cab driver, a crippled service station attendant, and a boy and girl, according to Stephenson's admission to officers. Each of the four offenses took place on different highways while the men were on a round of vandalism. In each instance they relieved the owners of their automobiles and abandoned the victims on the side of the roads. They tied each o the cab drivers to trees before they left them.
Stephenson, who is now at the State Prison Camp at Dallas awaiting federal officers, admitted his identity to City Policemen Jack Sarver and W.R. Harkness, who arrested him. Stephenson was recognized by Prison Guard Frank Holloway of the Newton Prison Camp, who told the local officers that the man who was drinking beer in the Gastonia cafe was Stephenson.
Another man, who was believed to be a companion in crime with Stephenson, possibly Ballard Martin, escaped from the scene at the appearance of the officers. Officers gave chase, and continued the search throughout the night without success. A third man who was arrested by the officers in the cafe for investigation Wednesday night proved his identity Thursday morning and was released as an innocent man.
Questioned by Oscar Adkins, fugitive officer from the prison department at Raleigh, and by Superintendent Fred Friday of the Dallas Prison Camp, Stephenson made the following confession about the kidnapping and robbing activities of the trio since they left the prison camp.
After they overpowered a guard at the sanatorium and took his keys, the trio operated an elevator and took other prisoners up and down for awhile. They left the sanatorium near Aberdeen in a truck and drove in the direction of Southern Pines. Between Aberdeen and Southern Pines they held up a boy and girl who were parked in a car on the road, and ordered them out o the car.
Friday night the trio went to High Point where they kidnapped a taxi driver, Paul Saunders, who was driving a Bluebird taxi. They took him and the taxi within three miles of Moxville. There they tied the taxi driver to a tree and confiscated $21 in money from the driver.
Proceeding to Morganton, the trio went to the home of Martin Ballard, 17 miles north of Morganton, and abandoned the cab in the woods there. Sunday night they resumed their criminal activities when they kidnaped a Negro taxi driver, Booker T. Ruff, in Asheville. They tied this driver to a tree on the side o the highway and left him. They drove the car for some distance from Asheville until they ran out of gas and abandoned the cab. They took $19 from the Negro driver. They also robbed the white driver of $21. However the escapees were tenderhearted to their victims in one respect, according to Stephenson's story. Because the cab drivers had no coats, they let their own coats around them. and returned $5 to one o the drivers.
Continuing their trip, the three went to the home of Charles W. Crum in West Asheville. They told Crum the gears on their car were faulty and asked him to drive them to Asheville. After Crum consented and was driving them to town, they informed him that he was being held up and Holder took the wheel. He drove past the Georgia line about 500 yards, discovered he was in another state and returned to the North Carolina line where they put Crum out of the car.
Crum is a one-legged, one-armed service station man who was crippled in a railroad accident several years ago. Officer Akins said the convict took $135 and a 32 revolver from Crum and drove his 1947 Oldsmobile close to Atlanta. There they turned around and came back to Charlotte. After they abandoned the Crum car, the trio separated. Holder went to Greensboro where he surrendered to officers. Ballard Martin is still free and Stephenson was apprehended here.
Crum's machine was recovered and returned to him Tuesday, officers said. The trio overlooked several hundred dollars that Crum had in another pocket.
Stephenson was sentenced to from six to ten years in prison in Cleveland county in 1942 for robbery with firearms. He is the son of J.W. Stephenson of Belmont, officers said.




Asheville Citizen Times, 11/9/1947, "Two Alleged Kidnapers Are Identified By Crum"
C.W. Crum kidnap victim who was enticed from his home on a plea that he help three men whose car had broken down, and then forced to drive to the Georgia-North Carolina state line where he was put out of the car, identified two of his alleged abductors at the county jail yesterday, officers said.
The men identified were listed as Odell Holder, 34, of Greensboro, and James Stephenson, 22, of Belmont and Asheville. Lodged in the jail as Federal prisoners they are held on charges of kidnapping under the Federal statute known as the "Lindbergh Law" and violation of the Dyer motor vehicle theft act.
Both waived preliminary hearing before U.S. Commissioner Lamar Gudger and were held for the criminal term of U.S. District court which convenes Monday.
Ballard Martin, 23, of Newton, the third member of the trio sought in connection with the kidnaping of Mr. Crum, a crippled filling station operator, was still at large last night, with Federal, State and local law enforcement officers on the alert to apprehend him. He is charged with kidnaping and violation of the Dyer act as are the other two.
Holder surrendered voluntarily to Greensboro authorities and Stephenson was apprehended in a Gastonia restaurant. Officers who are working on the case said that although the three escaped from the prison ward at Sanatorium, where they were under observation, only Holder is known to have tuberculosis.
In addition to the kidnaping of Mr. Crum, the three are also alleged to have held up Booker Ruff, Negro taxicab driver, finally putting him out of his car and tying him to a tree in the Bingham heights section.
Mr. Crum is said to have told officers that he was robbed of $135 by the three and that they overlooked an additional $400 which he had in a bank book in his pocket.


Charles Walter Crum made it home safely and his money and car were returned to him.

In 1953, Charles' father William Walter Crum died of a massive brain tumor at the age of 61 years old. His wife, Jennie Crum lived at 279 Sherbourne Avenue, Asheville, NC.

C.W. and Jessie Lou Crum were very active in their church. Jessie Crum was a charter member of Grace Baptist Church, 718 Haywood Road, Asheville, Buncombe County, NC. Charles was a deacon and involved in serving in sunday school and training union. When he died he was a deacon and superintendent of the Junior Sunday School and a member of the Men's Brotherhood of Grace Baptist Church.


In 1963, Charles W. Crum committed suicide in a local motel.

Asheville Citizen Times, Asheville, Buncombe County, NC, 11/5/1963, Pg 3, "Walter Crum Found Dead"
A West Asheville man's body was found Monday in a Hendersonville road motel with a bullet wound in the head, according to Dr. John C. Young, Buncombe County coroner.
Dr. Young identified the dead man as Charles Walter Crum, 43, of 295 Shelburne Rd., who was found in a motel at the junction of U.S. 25 and 25-A about 1:30 p.m. (Sun Valley Motel, 2507 Hendersonville Rd, Arden, Buncombe County, NC)
Dr. Young ruled that death came from a self-inflicted wound, and said that no inquest would be held. The body was taken to Groce Funeral Home, where arrangements will be announced later.


Asheville Citizen Times, Asheville, Buncombe County, NC, 11/6/1963, Pg 17
Services for Charles Walter Crum, 43, of 295 Shelburne Rd., who died Monday, will be held at 3 p.m. Wednesday in Grace Baptist Church of which he had been an active member for a number of years. The Rev. C.R. Pierce Jr., pastor, will officiate. Burial will be in Green Hills Cemetery.
Pallbearers will be R.M. Randolph, Ed Roberts, Milfred Parker, Maynard and Gurney Crum, Porter Joyner, R.C. Kinser and Bert Starnes. Honorary pallbearers will be members of the board of deacons and Men's Brotherhood of the church. The body will remain in Groce Funeral Home until taken to the church to lie in state 30 minutes prior to services.
Mr. Crum was an employee of Southern Railway for many years. serving as a brakeman in the Asheville yards until he lost an arm and a leg in an accident there. He had since been employed by Home Insulation Co. of Asheville. A native of Greene County, Tenn., he was a son of Mrs. Jennie Ricker Crum of Greeneville, Tenn., and the late Walter Crum. He was a veteran of World War II serving in the Navy. Mr. Crum was a member of the board of deacons and the Men's Brotherhood of Grace Church where he also served as superintendent of the Junior Sunday School Dept. and was a leader in the Training Union.
Surviving in addition to the mother are the widow, the former Miss Jessie Lou Brown, and two sons, William L. and Charles Dale Crum, both of Asheville.


I can only imagine the pain that caused him to commit suicide. He was only 43 and yet he had lived a lot in his 43 years. It seems he had some tragedies to overcome in his life that might have seemed insurmountable to a lot of people and yet he also had some good things that I'm sure brought him joy. He lived during the Great Depression. He had to serve during the world's greatest war, WWII, and yet he survived to come home. He married a beautiful woman and had two sons and had a home. He was involved in a horrible accident that cost him his arm and leg while on the job. Yet he survived and seems to have been employed as a filling station attendant and then at the insulation company. Just a few months after this terrible accident, the poor man is kidnapped and robbed and left on the side of the road. But he survived and got his car and money back. He lived next door to his in-laws and was very active in his local church where he was obviously respected. So what was the tipping point? What caused him to do it? It's just so sad.

He killed himself at the Sun Valley Motel in Arden, NC, south of Asheville. The Sun Valley Motel was operated until 2007 when it was demolished and replaced with a new Walgreens.

Advertisement in Asheville Citizen Times in 1964




Charles W. Crum's sons married and had children. Charles Dale Crum and William Leland Crum also served in the U.S. Navy.

Jessie L. Brown's father, Cyrus Leland Brown, died about 5 months after her husband died, He was being treated for bladder cancer when he died of acute coronary heart disease.

Jessie Lou Brown Crum died at just 47 years old on 3/6/1969. She died of cardiac stand still due to renal failure, congestive heart failure (duration 2 years) due to hypertension, chronic nephritis (duration 10 years).


Asheville Citizen Times, 3/7/1969Asheville, Buncombe County, NC, Pg 25
Mrs. Jessie Lou Brown Crum, 47, of 295 Shelburne Rd., died Thursday afternoon at her home after a long illness. A lifelong resident of Buncombe County, she was the widow of Charles Walter Crum, who died in 1963, and a daughter of Louella Ballard Brown and the late C. Leland Brown. Mrs. Crum was a charter member of Grace Baptist Church, where she was active in the junior and intermediate Training Union and the Sunday School.
Surviving in addition to the mother are two sons, William L. of Asheville and Charles Dale Crum of Durham; a sister, Mrs. Mary Nell Hux of Asheville; and three grandchildren. Services will be held at 3 p.m. Saturday in Grace Baptist Church. The Rev. C.R. Pierce Jr. and Dr. Cecil E. Sherman will officiate. Burial will be in Green Hills Cemetery...

Her mother, Louella Ballard Brown died the following year on 5/19/1970 in Asheville, NC of a heart attack at 68 years old. And Charles' mother, Jennie Ricker Crum, died a few months later on 11/26/1970 in Chapel Hill Nursing Home, Chapel Hill, Orange County, NC of cardiac arrhythmia at 82 years of age.

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