8 Remove your way far from her. Don't come near the door of her house,
9 lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one;
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth, and your labors enrich another man's house.
Proverbs 5:7-10 (NIV) 7 Now then, my sons, listen to me;
do not turn aside from what I say.
8 Keep to a path far from her,
do not go near the door of her house,
9 lest you lose your honor to others
and your dignity to one who is cruel,
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth
and your toil enrich the house of another.
Proverbs 5:7-10 (NLT) 7 So now, my sons, listen to me.
Never stray from what I am about to say:
8 Stay away from her!
Don’t go near the door of her house!
9 If you do, you will lose your honor
and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
Proverbs 5:7-10 (CEV) 7 My son, listen to me
and do everything I say.
8 Stay away from a bad woman!
Don't even go near the door
of her house.
9 You will lose your self-respect
and end up in debt
to some cruel person
for the rest of your life.
10 Strangers will get your money
and everything else
you have worked for.
Strong's Exhaustive Concordance
you concede - תִּתֵּ֣ן (nathan, tit·tên) - Verb - Qal - Imperfect - second person masculine singular Strong's Hebrew 5414: To give, put, set
Brown-Driver-Briggs English Hebrew Lexicon adds: give, permit, bestow
your vigor - הוֹדֶ֑ךָ (hod, hō·w·ḏe·ḵā) = Noun - masculine singular construct | second person masculine singular Strong's Hebrew 1935: Splendor, majesty, vigor
to one who is cruel - לְאַכְזָרִֽי׃ (akzari, lə·’aḵ·zā·rî) - Preposition-l | Adjective - masculine singular Strong's Hebrew 394: Terrible, cruel
You don't want to waste your best years of life with women who are takers. This goes for women as well. You don't want to waste your best years of life with men who are takers. People like this will only use you and throw you away once you are no longer useful to them. It may be they like your good looks, but looks fade with age. It may be they like your money, but once it's gone they aren't interested in you anymore. It may be they like your power and status but that never lasts. Once you are no longer president of the company, President of the United States, Senator, Class President, football quarterback... they don't show up any more. They may like you for the drugs and alcohol you provide but they disappear when it's gone.
There are people in this world that are out for themselves only and care not one wit about anyone else. When you don't do what they want you to do and are no longer their puppet, you will be tossed aside. You are welcome only as long as you are useful and attractive to them. You find out who your real friends are when you have the flu. Real friends will strap on a face mask and bring you soup or take you to the doctor. But everyone else will stay far away from you so they don't get sick. When it comes to a spouse, you want one who will go through thick and thin with you. If you get sick and need someone to wipe your tail end, it's your spouse who will be there if you have chosen wisely.
You, also, need to be the kind of person who will be there for your spouse. Don't be a user and slide away when things don't go the way you want. You may have a spouse that needs you to wipe their tail end when they get sick. (Sorry, I know that's crude but it really does come to that in the end.)
My Mom and Dad got married in 1956. They celebrated their 50th anniversary in 2006. She died of dementia in 2018. He died unexpectedly of a pulmonary embolism 4 months later. Let me tell you a little about them. They met at a little Baptist college in the NC mountains called Mars Hill. They were not allowed to kiss or hold hands or touch on campus. She was majoring in music and he in engineering. They met in the cafeteria when she was working as a server. He caught her eye immediately and vice versa. Later they sat outside with friends and talked. Their first date was on a class field trip with a hundred other students on buses. From then on they were inseparable. He visited her family by hitchhiking to their home. She visited his family. They graduated the 2 yr college in the Spring and married in December, 1956. She went to work and he went to NC State to finish his college. His parents had paid for his 2 yrs at Mars Hill but once they got married, they were on their own. (Again, not because the parents didn't love their son and his new wife, but once you got married, you became your own responsibility. That's the way it was and went without saying. Once you got married, you were considered a grownup and grownups made their own way.) So she worked as a secretary and they lived in tiny apartments until he graduated. Then he got a job at TVA (Tennessee Valley Authority) as an hydraulics engineer and they moved them all over Tennessee. I came along in 1959. My sisters were born 2 and 4 years later. My Mother worked off and on whenever needed but my Dad knew we were his responsibility as the breadwinner. After we graduated high school and got married (we all married right after high school), she went to work fulltime at a couple of places. She also tried to start her own businesses that never took off. The last one was a large daycare and they went bankrupt over that one. But my Dad never once complained where we heard him. That last try of hers cost them everything but he stood by her and never complained. He loved her and she was worth any amount of money to him. Her dementia was the cruelest joke of all. She remembered her husband and children almost til the end. We were her most important assets and she let us know all the time how much she loved us and how proud she was of us. But the last month or so, she couldn't even remember us and couldn't talk anymore. But my Dad took care of her in every way and put up with all the agonies of dementia. We were just on the point of having to do something as she could barely walk to the bathroom when she died in her sleep. My Dad had taken her to the bathroom, had fed her and seated her in a wheelchair in front of the TV and went to wash the breakfast dishes. When he came back, she was gone.
Now that is devotion and love. If the roles had been reversed, my Mother would have done the same for him. When they were young, handsome/beautiful, full of energy... it's easy to love. But that never lasts. You either age or you die. So make sure you are looking in the right places for that special someone who will be there in the end. When everyone else is gone and you are by yourselves, will that person still be there? Will you still be there? When you've lost everything like my parents did, will you still be there? Will your spouse still be there? When you have dementia, will your spouse wipe your mouth, feed you, help you in the bathroom? Will you do that?
Don't waste your best years on people who won't be there. Don't be a user and don't keep users around you.
Con artist scams elderly man out of thousands, claims she has cancer
By: Angela Brown, Posted: 6:03 PM, Jan 28, 2015 Updated: 9:33 PM, Jan 28, 2015
MUSKEGON COUNTY, Mich. — Michigan State Police say a Maryland woman scamed an elderly Muskegon man out of tens of thousands of dollars after claiming she had cancer.
MSP say 20-year old Jessica Travers met a Muskegon man on a flight from Detroit to Virginia and convinced him that she was a cancer victim with two small children who was trying to find a way to pay for medical treatments. She gave the victim a fake name and age and told him she was waiting for a large financial settlement but needed money in the meantime to pay for chemotherapy. The victim, who was living on social security, agreed to loan the woman the money until she could pay him back from a settlement and earnings from her online financial business.
Investigators say Travers visited the victim in Michigan, obtained his personal information and opened numerous credit cards in his name without his knowledge. Investigators say Travers charged over 80-thousand dollars worth of items and obtained cash advances of over 40-thousand dollars. She also falsified a loan application for a car which the victim agreed to purchase for her so she could drive to and from her medical treatments.
To obtain more money, they say she convinced the victim she was in the hospital in Grand Rapids and needed additional money for a mastectomy. Investigators learned she was actually traveling throughout the country with her boyfriend spending money at the Crowne Plaza in New York City, buying designer shoes from Christian Louboutin and makeup from Gucci.
In May 2013, Travers was featured on “Dateline” after she posted a fraudulent ad on Craigslist saying she was 35 years old and interested in meeting an older man if he wired her 75-hundred dollars. She was exposed during and undercover sting operation.
Travers and her boyfriend were stopped in Baltimore, MD last Thursday and charged with unlawful possession of a motor vehicle. She is currently in jail in Baltimore Maryland. She is facing charges of unlawful possession of a motor vehicle and larceny by false pretenses over 20-thousand dollars. Detectives from the Michigan State Police are working with Baltimore PD and the Muskegon County Prosecutor’s office to extradite her back to Michigan
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Mary Carleton was a 17th century Englishwoman. After two failed and simultaneous marriages (bigamy), a resulting bigamy trial, and a fling with a wealthy nobleman, Mary Carleton fled England for the Netherlands. It was upon her return that she remade herself as Princess van Wolway from Cologne. With this ruse, she seduced and sometimes wed a string of men, playing each only to rob them. It's believed many of her victims were too embarrassed to reveal her deceit. Her spurned lovers finally spoke up earning Carleton a death sentence by hanging at the age of 30.
A Londonderry woman has been conned out of £20,500 by an online romance scammer. Police said the man claimed to be a soldier and asked her for money, claiming his account was frozen.
Don't let others steal your hard earned money in romance or "sweetheart" scams.
I mentioned, in one of my earlier posts, an elderly man who had been using prostitutes. Those prostitutes and their "friends" weren't satisfied with what he paid them. They saw other things in his home and yard that could be stolen. One day he was coming home and passed his other car. One of the male "friends" of the prostitutes had stolen his other car from his garage in broad daylight and was driving off with it! They have stolen everything they could get their hands on.
If unscrupulous people find out you have anything of value, they will target you. They will be your best buds until they get a chance to take everything you have. It may be online scams. It may be stealing your wallet. It may be breaking into your home and stealing. It may be cons. But you have to be careful not to associate yourself with these kinds of users and takers.
Proverbs 5:8-10 8 Stay away from a bad woman!
Don't even go near the door of her house.
9 You will lose your self-respect and end up in debt to some cruel person for the rest of your life.
10 Strangers will get your money and everything else you have worked for.
You don't want to lose your good reputation, your honor, your dignity, your self respect by hanging around these kinds of people. You think you gain respect and some kind of honor by partying with these people. You think others see you as cool because you can drink so much or you have sex with a lot of girls (or guys)? That's not the kind of bragging and honor you want. That's upside down thinking. You think you've risen to the top of a mountain when you're actually touching the bottom of a pit because you are hanging upside down. It's behavior you should be ashamed of and not proud of. If you don't turn things around, you will wake up one day in that pit and not know how to get out. Don't even go there! Don't go to that party! Don't go out with that kind of girl or guy! Don't hang out with those kinds of people! Stay away and don't even go near!
- Does someone come to mind when you think of a user? Have you seen them in action?
- Have you been a user? Is God revealing something in yourself that you need to repent of? He loves you and will forgive you.
- Have you lost money on loose women and wild men? Maybe you are in a relationship with one now that is just using you, taking from you. I'm not talking about a husband and wife who are walking together in a relationship of love and give and take. I'm talking about a woman who isn't married and she's working but her boyfriend has moved into her home and lets her pay for everything so he can party and snooze at her expense. I'm talking about a man who isn't married and he's working but his girlfriend makes him pay for her drugs, her alcohol, her partying with friends. You need to re-think your relationship. It would be better to be alone than letting someone use you. They will leave on their own once they've got all they want out of you. Don't let them do that to you.
- Have you confused yourself with upside down thinking? Did you think you were king of the hill because you could get drunk or high? Did everyone applaud you as you binged on drugs or alcohol? Do you feel like a stud because you get sex? If you think this behavior through to it's conclusion, you will see it's upside down thinking. You are falling into a pit instead of being top dog. Maybe it's time to think and journal about this. Roll your life out and see what your behavior will lead to.
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